Hello all.

I really need some advice here. My boyfriend and I are in a very loving relationship. We are incredibly happy together and had plans to move to Florida in November. I just found out that I’m pregnant, we weren’t trying or expecting this. My birth control method failed. I have an appointment on Monday but I’m estimating I’m probably 7-8 weeks.

I told my boyfriend right away, and from the second I told him he was adamant on an abortion. I told him I wanted to think about it first. Then I talked to him about keeping it because I don’t honestly know if I can go through with an abortion. I don’t have health insurance, because my job doesn’t provide it yet, so I mentioned applying for Medicaid. He went on a huge rant about how that’s so selfish of me because we don’t need to use Medicaid because we were irresponsible and making an irresponsible decision (not having the abortion) and that we won’t be able to move to Florida if I do this, and his life is ruined and he will never get ahead in life if I do this. I suggested he talk to some friends about it, his best friend and his wife are currently pregnant. He saw them last night and he said he couldn’t bring himself to talk about it because he doesn’t want anyone to know. Then he suggested that we have the abortion and we can have a baby in a year. I told him that honestly would make me feel terrible. Throw this one away and try again in a year.

I don’t know if I want to keep the baby or not yet, I’m just feeling really bummed out that he’s so against me on this. I love him to death, but I’m concerned that this is going to ruin our relationship. I don’t want to lose him, but at the same time he’s 32 and I’m afraid he will never grow up and take responsibilities. He’s been babied his entire life by his family and all of this has really concerned me to our future.