I'm going to try to word this as gently as possible, as to not offend anyone...

I was really chubby and dweeby looking until very recently so this is new to me. But I've just been informed that I "grossly abuse my sex appeal to get what I want" and it really caught me off guard. I know that I'm thinner now, but I don't even really think I'm pretty! I'm just a nice person. Does being more attractive mean that I can't smile at people and be friendly? Before nobody ever said things like that to me. Why is it that being nice is suddenly turned into being flirty?! How the hell do I be nice without flirting if I didn't even know I was doing it to begin with?