Growing up was very toxic with her and I moved out 3 years ago and just recently moved back home. I feel as if my mom is upset cause she just got back from vacation and has to work on Monday. She hates her job and views me as doing nothing even tho she’s not home to observe me. No longer with my toxic ex so moving back cut down a lot on expenses. I’m not working a normal job but I’m half way through real estate school, make $200 monthly from my online shop and just now able to monetize my videos. Looking into work options. Today she caused a huge fight over how I’m not cleaning up. I have a spare room I’m using for arts and crafts and she’s extremely picky. It’s bringing up a lot of old feelings that I worked hard to get over and establish self worth after her telling me how no one will love me growing up. She was switching my words around today, like how she didn’t see me do school work today but she saw me watching Netflix and cutting out images. I said its like you going to work then watching tv when you come home. She took that and told my step dad that I gave them permission to watch tv and went on how hard they work and I shouldn’t tell them what to do. All I was trying to say was I worked now I’m taking a break, nothing too different than what you do. I’m almost 24 and can’t afford to move out right now and would rather get a house in the near future. How can I deal?

Do I just try and kiss her ass and keep everything overly clean as if no one even lives here or what? Everything I say gets twisted around and she tells my step dad what she thinks and makes me look like a stuck up airhead. He’s so clueless to half of the convos I even have with her. He even blamed me for them fighting and said if I have an issue with my dad to take it up with him. Where the fuck did he even get that idea from? Oh ya probably my mom. My issue isn’t my dad, my issue is I cant use a designated room for my online shop to make orders and package them without my mom trying to micromanage everything then make a fake scenario to my step dad