Please Tell Me It's Hormones!

I feel like I'm losing my mind! My daughter hasn't been listening to me at all and i try so hard not to raise my voice or spank and nothing that used to work or I've tried, is working! She literally peeled her bedroom wall paint off to about a 6in circle! I RENT. My SO is a cat person, while I am definitely not. I enjoy having houseplants and nice things and i despise fleas. He won't stop getting more cats and now we're up to three.

I grew quite attached to one of these cats and considerred it mine. However out of nowhere, months and months after being fine, she's literally ruining everything. She knocked over my flat screen tv last night, she keeps me up at night (AFTER I FINALLY FALL ASLEEP), has started pissing on important things like my nice new couch, literally all thr boxed pasta in my pantry, my clothes, she tore up my new recliner, she chewed up baby clothes, and to top it off she's got bad fleas and worms suddenly and it's repulsive. I feel bad because i know the treatment will just take a minute but god i cant stand them anymore! His other cats are picking at themselves and getting into food in the pantry and they killed three very expensive nice house plants/tress by instantly pissing in them despite all home remedies and training. I FEED THEM TWICE A DAY AND THEY'RE INDOOR CATS!!! I'm so done! I feel like no one respects me, i can't have anything remotely nice, and the house is being destroyed and smells and feels disgusting. Someone please tell me it passes! 😢😭