EDIT For everyone basically coming for me. I know it's hard to assess without the backstory but basically he cursed me OUT during a heated arguement in front of my 10yr old daughter. He got mad at me for not wanting to go for a ride and argue so he blew up and involved my daughter and then called me a weak bitch, hoe, gold digger, etc in front of her (and our 1yr old son). And tried to put me out of the house. He talked to me like a whore on magnolia. This is his 4th time doing that in front of her. It's been many years since but now shes 10 so old enough to understand how horrible that is. He apologized last night and thinks it's all good. It's not. If this was the 1st ok maybe but this shit is not ok and I dont want to lay next to someone that talks to me like that when they're mad and thinks those things about me. Yes our relationship is toxic and I'm practically done. He wants to try and do counseling but in the mean time I'm not ready to act like it didnt happen as usual.

If you have, What is the longest you've ever made your partner sleep on the couch? Me and my husband had a horrible fight a couple nights ago. We have been married 5yrs and this is his 2nd time going to the couch. I'm usually the 1 to go when I'm steaming just to avoid him saying no and arguing about it and I stay there until I'm ready. Theres been times where I've stayed a whole week. But this time he definitely deserves to be there and went on his own. Last night we finally talk things through after days of silence but in my heart they are not resolved but in his I guess they are. At the end of the talk he asked if he could come back to bed. I cant describe how I felt, basically no matter how detrimental something is he thinks the moment he apologizes it's supposed to be INSTANTLY forgotten COMPLETELY. I'm so soft I dont stand up for myself and I always do whatever he wants but last night I eventually said no. It's been 3 days. I still dont want anything to do with him...