Missing my husband 😞

deployments are hard and really test a marriage.. my husband and i are currently in that situation and he won’t be here for the birth of our son. my best advice, don’t start arguments, even if it seems worth it.. as much as they don’t admit it, they have SO MUCH going on and the last thing they want to do when they DO get the chance to talk to you is argue. secondly, if you’re having a hard time or issues, it’s not always best to run to them for comfort. it sounds really confusing but think about this way, he cannot physically help in any way, it’s gonna hurt his feelings (like i said as much as they won’t admit it) that he can’t help. you know he would give anything to be there with you and not overseas, sometimes its best to give them the benefit of the doubt and just be practical. happy conversations, remind him how much he’s love and missed and it’ll be over before you know it.. and most importantly, SEND PACKAGES. they will SWEAR they don’t want candy or cookies but if you do it anyways, and they get that package.. they do enjoy every last bite. my husband always tried to say he didn’t want candies or cookies and snacks but if i sent his favorite stuff without telling him, it sure was a good surprise to brighten his day. it’s the little things that people fail to see make an impact on your marriage. my husbands battles have been all struggling left and right with their spouses because they just don’t know how to act when their spouse is away. it’s hard to learn but you have to do it in order to keep your relationship intact. i hope this novel i wrote helps 💗

You should probably edit this post to leave out the dates! Don’t forget opsec! This is open for people all over the world to see. Help keep your soldier safe.

My husband just returned from a 9 month deployment in May. He left August 2018 and returned May 2019. I might be of help to you. You can privately message me if you would like an ear to listen. He’s been in the Army for 3 years now, so we’ve spent a lot of time apart. I’m also leaving for basic training shortly, so we’ll be spending another several months apart. It’s obviously not desirable, but you have to power through things you don’t want to sometimes!

My husband was deployed for 7 months and trust me we fought alot. But because we missed each other like crazy and they just wanna be with their wifes and the opposite. It's hard but once your together it will change you wont fight as much and you guys will be happy. You can message me anytime(:

My husband has deployed loads of times and deployed twice when we were together. The fighting is totally normal. Tons of things change and it takes a lot of effort to make someone a priority. You basically live two separate lives but still have to maintain contact, love, understanding, and work really hard to continue making someone thousands or miles away a priority. That's even tougher when you miss home yourself and talking to your spouse just reminds you of everything you're missing (his perspective). The arguments are harder because you cant just go and work it out instantly. They last longer than they should which creates discord.It's a huge effort on both parts but as long as you both make each other a priority, you'll get through it fine.

Nope but you are lucky to have him in your life

My boyfriend has been away for quite some time now on his year long deployment. I’m down to talk if you ever want to chat about anything.

I’m currently 38 weeks and my husband is getting ready to deploy shortly after our son is supposed to be born. He has done some lying and hiding things from me in the past and I now have trust issues with him so I am sure we will be in the same boat. Keep me posted on how y’all over come things! You’re right raising a baby/child alone is hard! I have been doing it for 8 years with my first. Stay strong mommy, you got this!!

My husband left when our son was 4 weeks old. I was still recovering from an unplanned c section. We also have a 6 year old that starting acting out because of the changes. It’s hard. We have no family near. I know it’s hard on my husband too. He’s missing the first months of his sons life. I just take it day by day. And remember the first year goes by so fast so I try to live in the moment and not let my mind wonder.

He hasn’t deployed yet but he just left for a month training. Then he has two month training October-December. Another month training in March. The list keeps going and it’s driving me crazy 😭 Oh and most likely deployment in October 2020. So someone kill me 🙃