9 months later?

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Lately we cant leave the house, He screams in the carseat. Gives me the WORSE ANXIETY THAT I CRY by the time i’m home. When i’m home its ok except when he’s tired bc he fights it. ALL DAY. I try  EVERYTHING. I have no social life.. his dads great but i have this overbearing “stuck” feeling. Sometimes i want to die because it would just be an escape from all these new responsibilities.  However i will say that i would NEVER kill myself or harm my child.. i will always be here to protect & love him. He’s honestly the light of my life .. i could cry thinking of how much i love him. i guess i get so much depression because i know that he WONT be ok without me? I do EVERYTHING for him plus work full time. Idk just a rant.
SB: every time i finally ask the people who told me to call if i need a break (his grandmas) their always busy. So thats a big help.. NOT 🙄 
Plus my mom doesnt believe in PPD.. i mentioned it & she laughed.. & i’m like no seriously i’m depressed.. she called it white ppl shit ?? Like what.

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You should reach out to your doctor. They can set you up with a counselor and/or support group. Can his dad watch him for a specific amount of time a day so you can get time to yourself?

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So ppd and anxiety can hit you at any time! Your first year post partum is a crapshoot of hormones and actual chemical changes in your brain. I think medication is a good route. Find a doc ideally that can do both prescribing and talk therapy. If meds is not your thing then consider CBD oil for anxiety. You will be fine! I am going on my third and had post partum anxiety with both . Eventually it will be a distant memory.

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This may just be a phase! My son was doing the same thing around 9/10 months. Now at almost 11 months he’s back to being totally fine to go in his car seat and taking semi normal naps again.

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I know how hard those car ride can be, my daughter use to scream like crazy. Nothing I did stopped her or helped. I tried everything!!! She’s 13 months now and a lot better but still has her moments. Can you put baby in his pram and take him for walks to get out of the house? 
Talk to your doctor about how you are feeling, your feelings are real and if you are happy, baby will be more happy and relaxed too. He can sense how you are feeling. You are doing awesome, don’t forget it!!

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Find a mom group on Facebook, join a baby gym class or music together.  You will feel so much better getting out and connecting with some other moms.  The crying in the car seat thing is just a phase.  I would switch him to a convertible seat (if he is still in infant seat) so he can see better and consider getting one of those mirrors with the lights and music that you can control from front seat with a remote.  And if that fails, blast some music and ignore him!  You aren’t a bad mom, you need some sanity, you know he is safe and I promise he will get over it!  Maybe some new stimulation will help him sleep better :)

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