It’s been a month since the guy I’ve been dating and I have had sex. The last time we had sex wasn’t the best... We had just admitted we had deeper feelings for each other a few days before so it was odd that he had difficulty staying hard & just wasn’t as into it. He preferred cuddling, kissing, and talking.

He’s been stressed recently. He had to get a new job that doesn’t pay as much and isn’t his passion, he’s in the middle of moving, and he’s expressed that he’s been feeling a bit self conscious (I’m not sure why. I validate him all of the time and he got promoted at the new job. He doesn’t like speaking about his more intense emotions so this is still a mystery to me).

He hasn’t initiated a date in a while which I understand, considering his current circumstances. But he should know by now I’m not super materialistic. He knows I love sitting at home & watching a movie.

I came over last week & tried getting him in the mood; I kissed on him, massaged him, love bites, things that he usually enjoys.........nothing. He got a little hard for me, but said he was very tired and just wanted to cuddle and hang out. We made out for longer than we usually do. We cuddled for a very long time and I just listened to him talk about his family, his childhood, and his most recent ex that really hurt him... He actually opened up a lot to me which was very surprising because he’s so quiet and seemingly emotionally withdrawn. We just hung out, got food, & watched a movie.

When I decided to leave, he seemed a bit disappointed. Which is also new.. he usually is the one to kick me out because he sleeps early😂😂

I’m just confused why we haven’t had sex in so long. He assures me he’s still sexually attracted to me but that he just has a lot going on. I obviously love cuddling, kissing, and talking with him, but I want to make love to this man I feel like I’m falling for. The sex is also phenomenal and I miss it.

Does anyone have advice or thoughts? He’s a Gemini if that helps 🥴