Me and my SO have been together for 3 1/2 years . We have been living together and get along great . We hit bumpy roads on the second year but who doesn’t he wanted a kid then to try to “fix” the relationship but I didn’t want to because I knew it would make the problems worse . But now we have his 13 yr old sister living with us because of her family issues and we have had her for a year . Our relationship is GREAT NOW and we no longer have problems since over a year . Going through that rough time we learned how to talk things out and compromise with each other . We are not yet engaged but do have plans to be so and married within a year or two . I am not ready for kids at all but I want a kid so bad . I just feel like I’m to selfish and I work way to much around 50 + hours a week . I wanted to get him a new truck and have it half way paid off before because a car seat in a single cab ?? We could add the baby to my boyfriends insurance cause mine sucks but yet not quite ready to be able to make up for my loss of income during recovery or bed rest if need be . But it’s 9 months to plan ... y’all help I feel like having a panic attack BUT HE IS WAITING ON ME TO SAY YES HES BEYOND READY . Am I ready to have syrup everywhere and a mess house ?? 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ I am little of a clean freak . So my ultimate question is .... How do you decide when to have kids 🙄