My SO is 25 and I'm 22 and we are expecting our first baby in 2 weeks 💙

I thought everything was going great.

When we met, he wasnt exactly on top of his game with life but when with a lot of trial and error we've been working together to build our future.

He has this friend down in Tampa that is 30 he met 4 years ago. They're best friends and honestly I thought he was decent. I didnt have any problems with him at all.

But I made the mistake of going into my SOs phone to find a stupid message from his friend basically saying that I'm making him a boring, workaholic, sex slave, basic dad blah blah blah ...

It hurt.

Him and I are having a baby for Christ sake. He's 30 yrs old, single, plays video games, and cant keep a job or girlfriend to save himself.

Now am I just saying those things BECAUSE I'm hurt? Probably. But I cant believe that he would try to make me out to be this controlling person.

Everything with my SO is compromise. I dont MAKE him do anything, but if that's how he feels then idk what to say. I just hope his immature friend doesn't get to him because right now is not the time to be trying to be single man mode...

*edit*

I confronted my SO about it and honestly the way he handled it made it even worse.

All he could say was "this is what you get for going in my phone" (I have gone into his phone a total of 3 times since we've been together) ... and "if i would have had time to delete it this wouldn't be a problem"

Basically he turned it around on me to make me the problem.

Then I just wound up so hurt I spent the rest of the night rolled over not wanting to talk.

This morning I just asked him if what his friend said is how he truly feels and he just said "no I love you and I'm not worried about him and his life. I'm worried about us and this baby coming soon" and he was being sweet

But now all I feel is guilt. All I can think is that he wishes he never got me pregnant and that all I am is this heavy weight in his life ...

Idk