So I know eventually the answer will be “whatever works for you and your husband” but, I feel like I’m the parent that does all the work (changing, comforting, feeding -I am BFing, etc) for our child. Almost like I am a stay at home mom but now that August is here, I’ve gone back to work and students show up on Wednesday. So here’s my reoccurring problem: husband and I are both teachers. We both have gone back to work. I’m the one waking up at night to feed baby because I do insist on breastfeeding him still and not quite ready to give it up. Not upset about being the only one getting up at night, a little salty about it, but I know it’s my choice. What I’m upset about is needing help during the day. Why does it feel like my husband has this life outside of work and home and I’m at work or at home with our baby clinging to me 24/7? It’s not that my husband doesn’t help when he’s home. When he’s home, he totally helps! But it feels like he’s never home. He’s at work or at the gym most of the time. When I think about having time to myself and do the things I want it’s eating, sleeping, pooping, and showering. 3/4 of those are nearly always rushed. Why do I feel like I’m putting in 90% of the work for our baby, when it should be more 60/40 (considering I’m breast feeding). I’m always stuck at home and he gets to do the things he likes. Just today I needed to get work done in my classroom and I took our baby with me. I went in the morning to work around nap time. My husband doesn’t leave until an hour after I get back and I’m struggling to put him down for 2.5 hours. He wouldn’t sleep without me holding him. I needed to do basic needs for myself. When I texted him he said he wouldn’t be leaving for at least an hour (and his school is 30 min away). It’s been over an hour and he’s still there. I’ve talked to him about it and he just gives me a hug as if I need to vent and not an answer or a solution! He always goes to bed at a reasonable time, sleeps all night and wakes up whenever he wants/needs to. I need help during the day! 😑 Am I being fair? BE HONEST but kind 💗