Feel like giving up

Jennifer • Wife•Mom•Endo-warrior James Thomas 8/8 🌈

I had a really awful delivery experience 4 days ago. Long story short baby was rushed to the nicu and I didn’t get to hold or try to nurse him until he was about 6 hours old. I tried the first 36 hours to breastfeed and wound up with nipples that were so cracked and sore that I bled and wept while he fed. By the end of day two I gave in and started bottle feeding as well as still trying to nurse. Bad idea because now baby won’t attempt to latch at all. I have very flat nipples and he has a minor tongue tie- a cocktail for disaster apparently. I tried different holds, different ways to sandwich my nipple, pumping first to pull it out, nipple shields, EVERYTHING. So what do I do? I desperately want to be able to breastfeed my baby, but he’s so uninterested and gets so discouraged. I just sit here and cry while I pump the measly 20ml I can get to add to his formula. I’m beyond depressed and would love some opinions on things to try!