Just a bfn vent

I promised myself I wouldn't test early this time (we have a 2 year old and for her it was 6 months of spending $$$ on pointless tests and emotional draining). I thought somehow it would be easier to stay away from POAS this time. Always "this time".

Yet here I am on 10dpo and looking at my 10th bfn. My boobs hurt a little, I've had small twinges near my ovary and I'm crying every other minute. I try to remember that I'm due in 4 days and these are probably just AF symptoms. Then I catch myself thinking "but it just feels different" even though that's not true.

Why does this wait have to be so hard?