So I'm fortunate to being under the care of a greatly recommended midwife. Looking forward to a peaceful as possible VBAC (of course with the understanding that whatever I need to do to keep me and DS safe during L/D I'm open to).

So out of courtesy I ask my other half if he's ok with me hiring a doula. Most birth stories I've read have just praised the use of a doula during a natural birth. His first response 'Nope' .. no? Ok why? .. 'Because I've been through this 3 times and you once, come on we got this'....

Did I mention VBAC? I'm not lost or arrogant to the fact that problems could arise, as of course with any birth. He's not my first son's dad and I'm not his 3 kids mama so NO we've never been through THIS together.

He goes on to say he doesn't want a stranger in the house with me and the baby. OH SO WHAT IF THE FREAKING HOUSE IS ON FIRE, AM I NOT SUPPOSED TO CALL ALL THOSE STRANGE FINE MEN AT THE FIRE DEPARTMENT????

Granted, I'm a reader so I've read alot of these recent stories about unlicensed women lying to people and ending up with fatal consequences. Which is why I've done my due diligence to make sure I picked one who is licensed and has good reviews and more than just a Facebook page. Being overly worried about a trained, licensed professional woman coming to help a 'new' mom is utterly ridiculous to me (ESPECIALLY WHEN THE RECENT STORIES ARE NOT EVEN HIS REASON). His issue is he wants to do everything, even things a woman is better suited for! Yes there are crazy women out here but I can't live in a freaking bubble, never have and Mama Bears are crazy too!!

Then he brings up the cost .... umm I'm sorry but what exactly have you paid for in my medical needs up to now??? We're not on your insurance and won't be because you can't afford it - still paying for those 3 kids you had with those other women see. And what amount have you contributed to my medical costs??? How about MAYBE $30 and I'm 27 weeks pregnant. Who's been buying my much needed maternity clothes, prenatal pills, prescription for nausea, paying my co-pays??? ME ME ... oh yea and me. Have I complained?? No - these things are needed for the baby so I'll pay for it and I do.

Then he says he Googled 'doula' to find out what it even is and he assumes she's coming home to stay. I'm like no she, AS REQUESTED not required, CAN help with breastfeeding, and postpartum depression issues - if needed. "she's going to be breastfeeding our son"? 🤔🤔🤔🤔 so you were sitting here bragging about how much we would have this under control and how many times you've done this and look at how freaking ignorant you are!!!! You have no answers just ignorant questions. AND YOU WONDER WHY I NEED SOMEONE ELSE WITH ME??? TO ANSWER MY QUESTIONS GENUIS, TO HELP ME UNDERSTAND THINGS I DON'T KNOW. AND MOST IMPORTANTLY TO HELP KEEP ME CALM FOR MIJO BECAUSE YOU ARE IRRITATING THE MESS OUT OF ME WITH YOUR FREAKING EGO AND UNEDUCATED MIND. WHY DOESN'T YOUR EGO GET YOUR CREDIT RIGHT SO I'M NOT STUCK LOOKING AT DOUBLE DEPOSITS ON RESIDENCES, WHY DOESN'T YOUR EGO GET ENOUGH INCOME TO PUT YOUR FAMILY ON YOUR INSURANCE, WHY DOESN'T YOUR EGO GET THAT LAWN MOWED 😤 this rant confirms to me that one thing is needed #RetailTherapy 🧘🏽‍♀️💃🏽🧖🏽‍♀️💪🏽 #WOOSAH

**UPDATE** For those who think I have a problem with his kids please don't go there. If it was a gambling problem, I would have said that, if it was a drinking problem i would have said that, if it was traffic tickets i would have said that. His child support happens to be where most of his money goes, his kids are NOT to blame for that so i said nothing in my post about them as being the reason - he is the reason. Point. Blank.

And to the poster that mentioned if i want it to pay for it - well duh if i was upset because i asked him to pay for it, then dumb on me when I already know his financial situation. I didn't ask him to pay for nothing, as I mentioned I will be the one taking care of it. This post was to vent and that's what i did. If your purpose here is to talk crazy to me about how i feel then go to another forum where people aren't venting #genius.

**UPDATE II**

I see some just refuse to read what I specifically wrote. His kids only got mentioned because he was bragging about how he's done this before and basically saying since he had them everything should be great with me. His other kids and their labor and delivery have nothing to do with the birth of this one. I'm not their moms, don't know their anatomy/situations/anything. What I do know is just because he's had other kids doesn't mean anything in regards to my body/previous pregnancy/situations, etc. For the last time, I didn't appreciate his comparing what he did with other women to my pregnancy, it has no place and it doesn't mean he's superman and all is well just because he's gotten women pregnant lol it literally doesn't matter. And I guarantee you if I made 1 mention of my previous pregnancy and who was involved he would have another heart attack SO for the last time please stop making up stories. Everything I said is written in black and white.