DH and I have been trying for children for almost 5 years now and I feel that it may be time for us to concede that we just aren't supposed to and are not going to have any.

I was wondering if this was:

a) normal and okay to feel this way and make this choice. DH said he'll try for as long as I want to and when I'm done he is. He says he's okay with not having any.

b) could it be that I'm just tired of just living to have children. Trying to stay healthy and primed for BD and possible pregnancy all the time.

c) I'm almost 30. Could it be my age and health issues speaking.

We have struggled for so long and have had a miscarriage and a chemical. My health problems have put trying practically on hold for 3 out of almost 5 years, but we didnt know I was having issues until 2 years ago and now that everything is addressed and mostly under wraps I just feel so tired of trying to get pregnant. The older I get the less I feel that I would want to be woken up for changing and feedings. The less I want to have to worry about rearing a child. I spent half of my life rearing my younger sibling and living in an abusive household, so could that be some of it? I'm sorry for rambling on and asking so many questions, but I haven't ever wanted to abandon my dream of having children so badly in my life as I want to tonight and I just want to see if maybe I'm over tired or something. I'm also enjoying DH being graduated and spending time together and I don't feel that I want to stop having fun with him to raise children either. Out of almost 7 years of marriage he's spent the last 4 years going to school full time and working full time because I was sick and wasn't able to keep up with the demands of my job to help financially. I feel that I just want to have fun with him now. Is this just a phase? I dont think there has been a day for about the past 9 years that I haven't thought about having and wanting children, so I feel this is abnormal of me to feel like this and I dont know what's wrong with me tonight. If you can help I've me some insight I would appreciate it.