Is my husband being inconsiderate? Sorry kinda long

My husband has sleep problems. If you look at my other posts you’ll see I mention this often. He can sleep thru alarms. And he will have really restless sleep, rising constantly thinking there’s a problem (intruder, Fire, cat infiltration of our room despite door being closed). Needless to say this makes both of us miserable when he has an especially stressful night.

DAILY he sets alarms to wake himself up. But because he will sleep thru one, or “wake” and shut it off, then go back to sleep, only to wake up later going OH MY GAWD IM GONNA GET FIRED IM LATE!!! Doesn’t help he never goes to sleep at a decent hour either.

Anyway so his solution to this is to set like THIRTY ALARMS starting an hour and a half before he actually last minute has to wake up. So last nite he says he “has” to wake up at 5:45 and will set an alarm for then. But then he tells me “but if I’m not out of bed before your alarm at 6:45 you need to boot me out.” Because *I* am one of his thirty alarms.

He apparently sees nothing wrong with robbing me of more than an hour of sleep. Routinely. When I complain he gets mad. He tells me *I* should go to bed earlier if this makes me tired! My family find this obnoxious and baffling from an otherwise wonderful man who is super considerate. So we have all tried to get him silent alarms that won’t wake me. He refuses to use them. I think he’s just afraid they won’t work.

Basically I don’t know how to get it thru his head that this bothers me and we need to change it. After I complained last night he got huffy and said fine. He moved to the guest bed with all his alarms and slept there. I felt terrible about it but I went to sleep alone...

And OMG, it was nice. A night where I wasn’t interrupted by his sleep walking and talking. A morning where his normal alarm didn’t go off before 6:30 and his other thirty alarms didn’t ring CONTINUOUSLY for a half hour. He never gets up with the first, only after I’ve gotten up for my own alarms. So well after 7 am.

I just don’t know what to do or think anymore. Sleeping separate might really help but it feels awful to do it, like we are fighting.