When he appreciates the effort but leaves you hanging...

No lie guys, i went all out and we even talked about it before hand. I had my son two months ago and he promised me tonight would be the night. I made the bed, lit candles, wore a romper and a bustier with lace crotchless panties, did my hair, wore a mask, set out toys and lube and a condom...

Guys...

He went to sleep on the couch. Later he came to bed and said i was very sexy and he appreciated the effort but he was too sleepy, so he offered to help me get un-tied. I havent had an orgasm in nearly half a year; and HE hasnt gotten me off in longer.

I love him so much. Our relationship is great. We communicate fine, we have enough money, we have secure housing, we are generally unstressed.

I just am so, so tired of having an unfulfilling sex life and we both try so hard. I just CANT get aroused enough to get off and nobody has answers for me. (Before you start suggesting hypotheses, yes, i have considered everything- and it's only gotten worse over time.)

Im at the point of wondering if the answer lies outside of my marriage... it's not that I dont love my husband, but i really fucking miss sex and orgasms. I cant even masturbate without getting sad and frustrated. I just cant stand it anymore. *rant over*