Both me and my sister have just had baby girls our parents first granddaughters they already have 3 grandsons one of which is my son. The girls were born 5 days apart I was due 2 weeks after my sister but had complications and had my daughter first then my sister had my niece 5 days later exactly on her due date. I love my niece to pieces don’t get me wrong and my mum was at both of our births I had a natural labour despite being induced and had my daughter all fine, my sister not so much she’s younger than me and had a really rough time with her labour she had severe preeclampsia that they didn’t even notice until she was there demanding to be seen swollen face, neck, stomach, hands, blurred visions, headaches etc so as she was full term the induced her and broke her waters to get her into labour and closely monitored her a lot! Thankfully! While in labour things didn’t go to plan baby’s heartbeat was dripping, my sister blood pressure went through the roof, they had taken so much blood from her she didn’t haven’t anywhere left for them to take it, she was doing fine managing the pain and breathing through it until the blood pressure got uncontrollable and they forced an epidural on her something she didn’t want considering she didn’t even have gas & air, then they got the bloods back and thought she had a bladder infection so she was on antibiotics throughout the labour she then told them she was still getting pains and they said she was lying so my sister moved her position on the bed to sit up more and low and behold they hadn’t even put the epidural in correctly and it hasn’t even been working the whole time! She gets to pushing although it’s her first baby she knows something not right she kept telling the midwife she’s stuck she’s not positioned right like she wanted to come out her hip more so they then examiner her after much debating and they realise baby is stuck and she’s back to back this has been going on now the whole process for about 27 hours they get to the following morning waiting on doctors now as they aren’t sure if they want to do a c-section as thing have been going on to long then 6 hours later they decided they will try forceps first at this point my sister is exhausted and just goes with it and wants to see her little girl here safe and sound, she’s taken down to theatre with her boyfriend whilst my mum stays in the room and calls and updates us all with what’s happening then 10 minutes later we receive a call with mum crying saying that my niece had arrived she was healthy and screaming the place down we were all so happy! They then had to give my sister stitches as they cut you for forceps to prevent tare. They took them down to the ward and they all of a sudden start giving my niece IV antibiotics as well as they think the infection might have to been passed on strange right how they said it was a bladder infection no they were trying to hide that my sister had in fact got sepsis and they gave my niece the antibiotics as a precaution so we thought until the next day came and they took my niece up to have a lumber puncture as they needed to double check if she had contracted sepsis from my sister and they failed at doing so they didn’t manage to do it correctly, and just took normal blood from her!! She was less that 24 hours home at this point!! They kept my sister and niece in hospital for 7 days they both had antibiotics for the whole 7 days and everyone visited her.

She’s now 8 weeks old and they live with my parents, my sister her boyfriend and my niece they lived there before they got pregnant my parents help her a lot especially as she’s so sore from the stitches and find it hard if she ever over does it which is what they would do for anyone they are very caring supportive parents my sister is breastfeeding so they will take my niece from her to give her a little break and wind her for her my sister really appreciates it!! As her boyfriend doesn’t do as much now as he did in the hospital, she was unable to move in the hospital so he had to do a lot more like getting the baby changed doing her nappy’s, passing her to my sister well now she has to ask him to change her nappy or getting her changed and things he doesn’t just do it.

We are a really close family and do lots of things together days out, family meals were always doing something which I love and it’s nice to see everyone, I always make the effort to see my niece and talk to her, hold her make that bond with her, however this is the point in this post sorry it’s so long just wanted to give you some background information my parents will fuss around my niece my mum will always change her nappy for her so that my sister can just get straight on and feed her yet when it’s me I’m trying to keep an eye on my son he’s 2 and likes to explore whilst changing her nappy and getting her bottle ready I know this is what you do when you have two children but when your mum and sister is there you would think would offer but she never offers to help me, they never really make much of my daughter when we are there they always have my niece in there arms cuddling her, or as soon as she wakes up they greet her and talk to her but my daughter nothing they very rarely hold her to be honest unless I put her into there arms myself and make them, I get my sister had a really rough time with giving birth to my niece and my parents want to do everything they can to help her but they seem to be forgetting they have another granddaughter right there who they don’t even seem to acknowledged, they are with my niece 24/7 but my daughter not all the time you would think they would want to see her when she’s there but they don’t, when my mum was holding my daughter she was looking at her trying to work her out and my mum even said your not sure who I am are you and then uses the whole I’ve got arm ache excuse to pass her back yet my daughter was born and still is 3lbs smaller than my sisters baby but she will hold her for hours!!

Am I being petty or would you feel the same? I just don’t get why my daughter has to feel less loved and unwanted they were never like this with my son when he was born they adored him and still do so what’s so different about my daughter? Both my children have the same dad in case you’re thinking it’s something like that my husband is amazing and always there.