He wants to bring alcohol to our child’s FIRST birthday? He told me to fuck myself! Am I wrong here?

So my boyfriend and I are planning our sons first birthday and I feel like we can’t agree on anything! I guess because we grew up in different house holds? Idk...

Basically he does believe in “themes” He thinks it’s stupid... but I somehow convinced him of it. There’s going to be 3 kids coming to the park ranging from age 3-10. So I told him I should buy little loot bags from them. It doesn’t need to be expensive but I feel like I should. But he thinks I don’t need to do that and said it’s a stupid idea. Then we are doing a cake smash that matches the theme of his birthday and I wanted to print off photos and give them in thank you cards! I thought it was a cute idea but he told me it’ll cost money and is unnecessary because no one will want them anyways? I just thought okay if someone actually didn’t want them then they aren’t worthy of coming, no? He is inviting a lot of people (family friends of his parents) that I’ve never even met yet, which is fine, but I find hes inviting way too much people.

Anyways, he just told me that we need to buy alcohol, I’m like “wine”? He’s like no beer and vodka, etc. He wants to buy all this alcohol. Now I’m not a drinker AT ALL. Like ive literally only been drunk once and It was hardly anything 😂 he doesn’t drink that often either, if he does it’s usually a beer or two..but happens once in a blue moon. I’m annoyed too because he’s nit picking everything I want to do and says it’ll cost money, but wants to spend it on alcohol!! I bought some glass bowls and plates to display fruits, veggies, dips, cupcakes, etc. And he told me to make sure I take off the dollar store sticker because it’s embarrassing? What!!!? He’s just not making sense. He says he doesn’t want to spend money, but I mean he obviously does 😂

He just told me he wants to relax and enjoy himself so I’m like ok whatever (I think it’s so weird since it’s a kids first birthday, but whatever!) I just told him the party needs to end at a certain time because I need to go home to put our baby to bed (it’s going to be at a little place 15 mins from home). It’s going to be a long day for him and I want him to still be on the same routine. He said he’s going to have everyone who stays later come to our house and drink so I was like I need it to be quiet because baby will be sleeping and I’ll probably be tired too from doing everything for the party. He started getting angry so I just said ok it’s fine I don’t care but please be quiet and he just started getting angrier and angrier.

Tbh I don’t even remember half of what happened I just know it resulted in him telling me to fuck off and how hes going to leave and he can’t ever enjoy himself, etc. I just told him I just honestly don’t understand why there even needs to be alcohol at a babies party and that usually it’s a set time and that’s it. People needs to understand baby needs to go to bed. And like I said if he really wants to do that it’s fine, but please be quiet. He just said that I don’t rule his life and that what do I think they’re going to be doing? Idk it was just a crazy fight and I just don’t understand how?

Thoughts? Am I wrong? Anything I should do/say? I’m starting to think hes just not happy because he feels he can’t do anything because we had a baby idk? Like why would he get so upset over this? We’re younger parents (23) but still this is crazy!