Should I change my name when we marry??!!

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I WOULD LOVE SOME OPINIONS!!
Here are the tricky details causing me confusion:
I have a 5 yr old son from a previous relationship (his father and I were never married and not on good terms). When I gave birth to him, I decided to give him my last name, and am thankful and proud of that decision and what it meant to me at that time in my life. I do not wish to change his last name.
I’m now in a beautiful relationship, engaged to an incredible man who has been an amazing role model and father-figure to my son. We want to have more children together very soon. 
1) I’d love to have my future husband’s last name. 
2) I’d love for our future children to have his last name
3) But it would make me sad to abandon my maiden name that I share with my little boy. 
4) I wouldn’t want him to be the only one in our home with a different name. 
5) I also want to be connected by name to my future kids
Do I hyphenate my name and have to be different from my husband?
If so, would my married name or maiden name come first? 
Do I even think about changing my firstborn’s name? (I don’t think his bio dad would ever sign off on that)
WHAT WOULD YOU DO?!
Opinions welcome!!!

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If it were me, I’d hyphenate it! 😊
But that’s just because I’m not sure I want to lose my maiden name either 😊

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You could solve a lot of problems if he took your last name haha.

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you can make your last name a second middle name

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I would absolutely never ever change my name into his when I’d marry my boyfriend, but that’s just me.

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Id hyphenate it, i cant say which name would come first as I don’t know the names 😂 but write them down both ways and say them out loud and practice possible signatures. See which fits best and do that one

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To be honest i was in the exact same position and didn’t wanna lose my maiden name... but I choose my new name and decided to keep it in a way I’m happy with it. It’s been a year and I’m very much used to my new name now.. it eventually becomes a part of you. Feels weird at first and you don’t recognise it as your own,. But you learn and eventually like it too,..

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Ok. I was married and changed my name in a compromise. I regret that choice.
Anyway onto you. I think you should do what my brother and his wife have done. As others have said hyphenate yours and your partners last name. And your partner can change his last name to the hyphenated version as well. That way everybody has the same name. 
If you don't want to go the hyphenated rout, you could create a new last name from the both of your current last names. A new name for the new beginning of your family.

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In this situation I’d probably hyphenate. Personally I didn’t change my name when my husband and I married so I don’t share a last name with my children or my husband and it doesn’t bother me.

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It’s up to you. I have been married almost 10 years and it never occurred to me to change my last name, but then again I live inthe place where it’s not possible (by law) to change your name ( Québec, Canada). My husband wanted to give our daughter hyphenated last name but I personally hate them and his last name is prettier than mine so I decided to leave mine out. Anyway, it’s completely your decision to make, whether you want to change or not. Don’t let othyto influence your decision.

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If your fiancé is game he could adopt your son, and give him the family name. If not I’d Hyphenate. It’s usually maiden-husband

Should I change my name when we marry??!!

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