Vent** of mom and babies dad

I’ve got no one to vent to so I’m going to here! I’m 19 years old and have a 1 year old daughter. I do not currently work but am wanting to get back to work soon. My mom says I’m a bad parent and that I don’t care about my daughter if I go back to work and put her in daycare. But she refuses to watch her, so how does she have a say in anything when I am trying to better my life! I’m still young, but she says it means I don’t love or care about my baby and I’m a bad mom. Other than that, she tells me what I can and cannot do at MY OWN HOME. Just a few nights ago I didn’t answer her phone call because my phone was on silent as I was asleep around midnight, and what does she do? Comes to my house, and bangs on my bedroom window threatening to call the cops if I don’t come and let her in the house and continued to yell at me saying she’s getting keys made to my house so she can come in whenever she wants. Other than that, she still has a tracker on my phone I had as a teen and still questions my whereabouts and calls me and asks me to send pics of where I am at. But my babies dad, my boyfriend? No better. He smokes weed IN the house around my baby, lies to me of where he is when he’s out with friends, yells at me over absolutely everything and constantly only wants sex and gets mad when I don’t; I have a low sex drive after my daughter and was born. He lies constantly about everything even the smallest things. And when I confront him, he slams things, throws things and locks himself in the bedroom like a kid. A few nights ago he brought home a dog as hesbeen wanting one for months and swears up and down he’d take care of it. He did for one day. Now he refuses to have anything to do with her now I’m stuck with a dog to potty train, a toddler, a ferret HE brought and 3 cats. Oh and the dog has worms, fleas, and ticks which is a great new expense for me to take care of. Between both of them I’m losing my mind. I don’t know what to do anymore. Sometimes I wish I could go back and change everything as bad as that sounds