We’re long distance right now. I wanted him to call me more often and hear about his day. Maybe I’m a bit clingy and sent one too many messages expressing my concern for us...but this hurt. I never spoke to him this nastily. I’m hurt and confused. We’re engaged and due to get married in the spring. He wasn’t always like this. Especially when he’s actually here with me. It’s like he’s a different person every time he leaves. He’s in the army, so I feel like I need a military spouse’s honest opinion. He’s not deployed or anything. Just stationed a few hours from me.

I feel so lost. Because I’m trying to have a civil, respectful discussion about all this. But all he wants to do is take another dig at me rather than focusing on the problem. Maybe I’m the problem. I don’t know anymore. The way we argue feels so unhealthy. He refuses to own up to any mistakes and turns it back on me. Talking over the phone is even out of the question.

That’s basically what I was trying to fight for.