Update What to do... sorry kind of long post

I never know what to do... dealing with relationships and family is so complicated. My spouse and I have been having issues, he says he married me not my family but I also feel like my family are stage 5 clingers. My mother lives with us so one of my siblings is always here and leaving their kids here for my mom to watch. So on the average day there are 6 kids running around after school hours anyways and sometime weekends... but then another family member fell into a rough patch and we have their kids until things smooth out. So that adds 2 kids and it’s been literally the most complicated thing I have to deal with they stress me out so bad. When I was 18 I took on the responsibility of 2 kids their mother was a friend to a sibling of mine and I felt bad for the kids... well now I have custody of them and have had for 7 years... I feel like my daughter that was born in 2016 is the one who suffers she always feels left out and is very emotional and and I feel bad for her... it’s so hard. I’m also 17 weeks pregnant and I feel like this should be one of the happiest times in my life and I feel like everyone is miserable including my self my parents are stuck up my siblings rear ends like they always have been and my husband and I argue non stop or I feel like he’s just not happy I don’t know what to do. We find out what the baby is in 1.5 weeks and we want to have a gender reveal but I feel like no one will even come...

Update: what I mean by my daughter is suffering is that she’s really emotional and I think she feels left out... the 2 kiddos I have custody of and have had for 7 years came out of a bad situation and the oldest has mental health issues and the other one has health issues which seem to be resolving... they are all my kids but I feel like my family favors them due to the situation they came out of...

and my oldest siblings has sole custody of their children and doesn’t have any other family than my mom and that’s why I feel they are always here in my business. My other siblings rough patch just happens to be the children were placed with me and mother from DCFS and so I don’t foresee that changing anytime soon...

it’s just tough on our relationship he feels like mom is judging every move he makes and doesn’t like how codependent my family is seeing how I don’t rely on anyone for anything... he says I’m the only who can change anything and that would be putting my foot down with my mom that the ones kids can’t be here all the time or for her to get out but she has no where else to go which I feel puts me between a rock and hard place to say the least