***Siblings and Money**** Dysfunctional Family

I feel like a bad guy and crying right now!!!

My sister doesn’t have a job and she depends on my dad and brother (at the moment). She has money issues from the past and has never used money consciously. She spent most of the money from her previous job on travel or fun, or friends. My dad manages the expenses because she lives with my parents.

Today, she went out with her friends and spent a lot of money. Even though she knew she didn’t have money, she went!

Now, she texted me, asking if I would like to help her. She has done this before and we (my brother and I) have tried to reason with her that she can’t keep doing this.

I said NO and that she made that choice herself and I can’t keep helping her like that!! For the first time in my life I said no and stuck to my decision firmly (with her). She always blackmailed me in the past at the end of every conversation, persuading me to lend her money.

I cried today, that I denied helping my sister on one side, and on the other side, I’m hoping that she comes to her senses, finds herself a stable job and STOP spending on things mindlessly. She had a choice, didn’t she?

I feel so bad! Still feel like helping her out. I don’t know!! Why do I feel like I did something wrong?? 😕😕