Need some advice
So im 20weeks and about to find out the gender. We have started looking at names. My husband brought up the idea of his deceased brother's name as a middle name if we have a boy.. While its sweet, there are a few things im worried about.
His brother committed suicide some 20 years ago in a different country.. Very harsh sutuation. its something that has never been spoken of in the family; there are no photos or any remembrance of the day etc. Safe to assume his family wants to keep this private; in fact his family assumes I dont know. Im worried that this would be extremely painful for my Mother in law as we would have to ask permission from her to use the name and maybe she wont like to know that I know... Even if my hubby discusses this in private with his mom, she is gonna know i know, and that we chose the name for a reason.. Its not even a favourite name but i think my husband wants to honor his brother somehow.. I agreed to it but I told him I feel very uncomfortable given that it could forever trigger the a sad memory in the family because of the circumstances of his passing.. My hubby says it would be a middle name anyway and I just dont know how to convince him that I dont want the name at all, without hurting his feelings.. Any advice?
Comment
Add Comment
Let's Glow!
Achieve your health goals from period to parenting.
