Anybody else going through issues with your boyfriend? I had a panic attack and I feel so depressed now😭

Question

My boyfriend is in a major funk right now and he has no idea what's wrong.. he's really being distant and he doesnt even realize he is. We were otp talking ab it tonight and I said do you want to break up and he said no I dont but what do you wanna do and I said I dont wanna break up but I think you dont need a girlfriend right now and he basically agreed anddd I completely lost it and had a full blown panic attack😭 my whole body feels so numb still and my eyes are almost swollen shut... before he went to sleep he told me he loved me and he didnt want to break up and everything would be back to normal once he gets out of this funk.
Has anyone else gone through this?? Or has anyone gone through a rough patch where you thought you werent gonna make it but it turned out to be fine? I just really really need some encouragement and hope because I love this man with everything I've got and i dont think i could go on without him honestly😭

Answer

You kind of put it on him when you said that. You were probably hoping he would reassure you that he needs you, but thats not fair if he has a mental illness. You’ve got to be secure enough to get through this without validation for now. 
He needs support and nothing else until he speaks with a psychiatrist, and a therapist. 
Depression is serious.

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Is it possible that he's going through depression?  Speaking from experience, there are times when I get 'in a funk' for a while and I legitimately couldn't give you a rhyme or reason why.  The clouds do lift but you have to just give it time.  
However, I don't understand why you kept pushing the issue of him wanting to break up when it seems very obvious to me that he didn't want to. I'm sorry you had a panic attack over it, but he said the first time that he loved you and didn't want to break up and when you kept insisting that maybe he doesn't need to be having a girlfriend right now, he more than likely agreed with you because you seemed to be promoting that idea.  At least, that's the feeling I got as a neutral third party.  
If he says he loves you and doesn't want to break up, trust that.  If he is truly going through depression like I'm thinking, breaking up with you is not the answer.  If anything, he needs someone he knows will be there for him.  You obviously love him and he obviously loves you; just be there.  There isn't anything you can do to 'make it better' but knowing he has someone who cares and can be a listening ear will go a long way in helping the funk lift sooner.

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Honestly honey, me and my bf of 3 years did it. He went through this phase where he was over worked and stressed out. And ended up ghosting me for about 2 weeks. Finally I messaged him after realizing that this wasnt ok. And he said he just didnt know and that maybe we'd be better off as friends but that he loved me still and couldn't get me off his mind and that he couldn't stop looking at our pictures. So after a week of crying and bugging him about it to open up, I realized how clingy I was acting and just stopped and left him alone. Telling myself that if it didnt work out then I guess it wasnt meant to be. I have horrible anxieties so this caused me to lose alot of weight and I knew it wasnt healthy so I detached myself from the situation and focused on me. After 2 weeks of not messaging him and letting him message me but still showing I would be there for him, he finally caved. He told me he missed me and wanted to see me. That day I went over and seen him and I told him how much I loved him and how much I wanted to be with him but if he kept having those moments and shutting me out that I couldn't do it. To just talk to me and not ghost me. So as long as your boyfriend is still talking to you and you're showing you care and that you'll be there for him but not overly devoted and still doing what's best for you, i believe that it should be ok. But the best thing for you is to understand that you have done NOTHING wrong. And it's ok to remind yourself that you're hot and wanted. That woman never have trouble knocking another man out with her looks and personality 😊 trust me.

Anybody else going through issues with your boyfriend? I had a panic attack and I feel so depressed now😭

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