MIL OBSERVATIONS

Does anyone else have the problem with their MIL being SO fucking passive aggressive with things she does or says that no one else (besides yourself) catches on to what she’s doing? She will say things in such a way that it could be taken a couple of different ways... either rudely or “oh, that’s not what I meant - YOU took it wrong”.

Example: 2 weeks before (now) hubby and I were announcing our engagement, she told me that we shouldn’t ever get married. We should just “play house” (her words) and if anything happens we could just up and leave each other, Scott free. Coming from a woman who is twice divorced, living in a 1995 airstream camper, in her mother’s back yard! GTFOH 😂👏🏼

- She insisted that it wasn’t meant to be taken the way I took it. She just wanted to make sure we weren’t getting in over our heads. WTF? We had been dating for 2 1/2 years, engaged 8 months, and now HAPPILY married for over a year with our first little one on the way, due in December.

Example: She’s big into dark, twisted shit - yet goes to church every Sunday and Wednesday. 🙄 Anyway, she’s in love with the color black (“until a darker colors comes along” 💀) and sugar skulls, Jack Skellington, Halloween, etc. I love The Nightmare Before Christmas - but not obsessed with it. She is. 🤦🏼‍♀️ So I made the comment TO MY HUSBAND that she overheard, whenever we have a daughter (Currently preggo with our son), I want her to wear dresses and bows and wear cute, bright, happy colors. He is all for it, he wants a little girly girl and daddy’s girl. But she made the comment after eavesdropping that she’ll “just have to buy her a lot of black outfits and dress her when she spends the night or when I’m not around because she doesn’t want her granddaughter to grow up all girly”.

-First off, she won’t spend the night. Haha, bye! Also, I will send her with clothes and if the colors are “too bright and happy” then she (MIL) can just get the hell over it. It’s MY daughter, not hers! But she insists that I took it the wrong way... I’m “so sensitive and need to toughen up”.

Example: She thinks that she’s going to have our son spend the night when he’s just a few months old and sleep in the bed with her.

-Again, no. Haha! I’m planning on breastfeeding and she isn’t getting our child until he’s over 2 years old, at least. I told her very nicely that I was breastfeeding and she wouldn’t get him for overnights any time soon and she responded with “well I’ll just have to take him for the day”. Do you not understand how TF breastfeeding works? I feed on demand... 24/7. 🤦🏼‍♀️

But honestly... she seems kind of incestious with my husband. The way she talks about him, looks at him, and hugs him. He doesn’t play into ANY of it, at all! He will tell her to back off. She just hugs him like a wife would hug her husband... pushing into him... I can’t deal. She always refers to him as “my baby boy”. She seems completely smitten over him and always goes on and on about how he looks just like his dad - and how his dad still looks just as sexy as when they were younger and married. 👀 Then compares him to her son??? 🤢

Incestious Example: We were chatting and she noticed the corner of our bedsheets were off of the bed. I told her that hubby didn’t sleep well that night, he tossed and turned. She replied “he never did that with me, he would cuddle up to me and go right to sleep” YALL. She then added, “he was 15.” WHAT THE FUCK?! I said “that’s fucking gross.” She left the room... later when hubby got home, I confronted him about what she had said because it was disgusting. He told me that he only slept in the same bed as her ONE time around that age. They were staying at his older sisters house and his moms room was the only one with an AC window unit, he likes it cold when he sleeps. He wasn’t feeling well and went to her room to lay down - she was not in there - yet. He went to sleep and night time came... his mom got ready for bed and got into bed with him. He stayed in the bed, it was a queen, and he firmly said that he stayed on his side of the bed and his sister and young nephew also slept on pallets on the floor because, again, it was hot and her room was the only with a window unit. So it wasn’t just him and her in a room alone, sharing a bed. He ASSURED me that the story she painted NEVER happens and I 100% believe him, because of how I know he tells her to back off (even when he thinks I’m not around - but I am 😝)

BUT DO YOU SEE HOW SHE MADE THAT SOUND??!! Like she wanted me to be jealous or some shit. I’m not jealous - I’m concerned. She’s fucked up in the head and nasty.

So she is the type of gma that I wouldn’t put it past her to try and secretly get a baby to suck her boobs, “to soothe them”. She’s fucked up and will NOT be getting our son any time soon!