How happy are you, in your marriage ?

Question

So I’m 29 and my husband it’s 32. Lately I have been feeling neglected in our marriage and our communication right now sucks. I haven’t been feeling happy and I don’t know if this is just a rough patch or should I just move on. I feel like when I was single I was happy and stressed free and right now I just feel unwanted and stressed and sometimes even depressed. I want to know how happy are other people in their own marriage. 
Ps: we have talked about how I felt and nothing has changed since. I am very open to tell him what’s wrong with me but he’s pretty much a wall usually when it comes to feelings.

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100% 
Even on our off days, I wouldn’t want to be anywhere other than by my husband’s side

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Where’s the 100% option?
Sure, we’re not perfect, but I love my husband and I wouldn’t want to be with another person. We’ve been together since I was 14 years old, about to celebrate our 3 year wedding anniversary, 11 years together.

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Why is there not 100% option? My husband and I  dated 7 years and have been married 3. We met when we were 17, got married and had our first kid at 24. I can say I’m 100% happy with how our marriage is going and the father he’s become. I can say that the only thing I’m not happy about with my husband is that he leaves his clothes everywhere. Communication is a big part of every relationship. We talk about everything, thank each other at the end of the night and tell each other I love you at the beginning and end of each day.

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Why is there no 100%?

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I’m happy all the time. Even on the hard days I am happy with him. One thing I learned though was that not only did I have to express how I was feeling but my tone of voice made all the difference in whether he listened or not. When we first got married I was very condescending when I would express myself so he would automatically block me out. After counseling I realized the issue wasn’t what I said but how I said it. So now I make sure he’s in a good mood before starting the conversation and then I say it as nicely as possible. It truly has made a difference and our lives so much better because he actually listens to me.

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I’m sorry to hear you’re going through this. Couples counseling can be really helpful. My husband and I have gone in the past (before we were married), but over the years we’ve both tried very hard to work on our communication. It’s hard when the other person is not as willing. I hope things get better for y’all.

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I would try couples counseling if you have access in your area. My husband and I started going recently and it’s been super helpful. It’s better to confront things earlier instead of waiting till the end to try and reach out for help.

How happy are you, in your marriage ?

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