Do we take a break?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for four years. We’re really young, only 19, but things have been going really well up until a few days ago. He admit to me that he’s scared of commitment. He’s afraid that he’s missing out on things in life, and by being with me he may not get to experience everything and he wants time to grow. He said he wanted to take a break, but the next day he was already having doubts. Now he’s unsure of what to do, because we both know if we take a break, things may not be able
to be repaired, and he’s not completely sure he wants to lose me. There’s a lot more to it, but I don’t want this explanation to be too long. I’m just so inexperienced and have no one to talk to about my relationship, and need advice.

Answer

I’m going to be honest and say this. 
High school relationships rarely last. In some causes yeah you could find your person that young but you are giving up a lot of experiences and really settling. If he’s not wanting to stay together so he can go out and explore then if I was you I would just break up. Breaks are nothing but messy and an excuse to go out and do whatever you want because “you’re not really together”. You don’t really know who you are yet and what you want getting together at 15, you need to explore yourself and grow and figure out what you need and want.

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My husband and I dated in high school, I was 16 he was 18. We broke up and ended up not really talking and dating other people for about a year and a half. After that time both of us were single and reconnected on fb, I wasn’t super eager to jump back into a relationship and he was cool with it so we talked as friends for almost 10 months before we got back together. That was 6 years ago, 9 years since the first time we dated. If it’s meant to be it’ll happen, but you can’t limit yourselves based on fear or the what if possibilities. It’s possible you might break up and not get back together, or it’s possible you’ll break up and end up back together happily. It’s a personal choice though for both of you, take a couple days apart to really think about what you want going forward. This could just be normal growing fears people have in young long term relationships and he’ll move passed it without needing to break up but you need to really think about it first and take the time to decide how you feel.

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Real TRUE love always finds a way back ! If y’all take a break and y’all can’t reconnect then that’s that y’all wouldn’t have made it in the first place . A break could be good sometimes it makes people realize what they really have maybe that’s all he needs

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My husband and I started dating when I was 14 he was 16. We were together for  3 years before breaking up. We were apart for 5 years before finding our way back to each other. We've been back together for 4 years 2 of those happily married. We both agree it was for the best to have that time apart to make sure we were meant for each other.

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Like you said, both are young and been together for 4 years. I would want to take a break and figure myself out before committing as well. Very understand

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It sounds like youre still on a break but honestly he needs to figure it out. He might end up holding resentment in the future if he feels like he didnt live his life how he wanted to but he cant string you along either until hes ready. He needs to make up his mind. No one, not even him can say whether or not he will regret his decision later but thats just how life is.

Do we take a break?

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