My sister treats one of her kids better than the other. What can I do?

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My sister has twin daughters who are 15 years old. For the purpose of this post we will call them Madison and Katherine. Katherine is the “favorite.” She is given many privileges while Madison has to do chores and isn’t treated equally. Some examples:
- Katherine was given a cell phone at age 12. Madison still does not have one. Her reasoning is Katherine is mature and Madison isn’t. This couldn’t be any more wrong. Madison is ten times more mature and responsible. 
- Madison was asked to prom but was not allowed to go because Katherine was not asked to prom. 
- Katherine wanted a puppy, Madison didn’t. They got a puppy and Madison is responsible for taking care of the puppy. 
- Madison is not allowed to go out after school with friends because she has homework to complete, but Katherine is allowed to go out, despite also having homework. 
- Madison needed to go to the library for a school assignment but was told no because they had to drive two hours away to get a gift for Katherine
- Madison is held to way higher standards in terms of grades, appearance, and attitude. 
These are only a few. I could go on. I just don’t know what to do or how to help. I try to take Madison as often as I can but my sister tells me it isn’t fair to Katherine as she’ll think I like Madison more.

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This is very hard situation. I am a twin and my sister was always favoured more and I don't blame her at all. I think even if you say something it probably won't change anything. 
 just be there for the twins

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There isn’t anything you can do. They aren’t your children. 
There might be other things going on in the home that you aren’t aware of. If one child is mature enough for a cell phone and the other one isn’t, then the other child shouldn’t be punished for the immaturity of the other. 
What if Katherine didn’t have homework? What if Katherine has great grades and Madison needs to improve? 
There is nothing you can do. They aren’t your children.

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I disagree with that other comment. That’s very sad😕 although I don’t have any advice. When they get older, she will realize how she’s getting treated and will most likely resent her mom. But Idk what you should do about it tbh. Just try as an aunt to show her the love that she doesn’t receive.

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I so feel this! Growing up my mom treated my sister and I very differently. My mother was always hard on me and had high expectations on how and who I should be in life. My sister was the rebel child and got away with it all. Things I would have gotten an "ass beating" for. For example my sister started smoking at the age of 15 (my mom was even buying her cigs)and partying at the age of 16. My sister was never home and was always going to parties. There was plenty of times where my mom would leave the house at 3 am to bring my drunk ass sister home along with her friends. The one time I tried "pot" because I was curious and admitted it to my mom I got my ass beat and the were so disappointed in you talk along with being grounded. My sister has always been the rebel child and never really got punished for her actions. I was the straight B student with a GPA of 3.5. Never drank nor smoked. I could go on and on, but I'll keep it short I can definetly relate to this. Today I am 25 and my mom still tries to have "control" over me and tries to tell me how I should act and parent my kids. I hope it gets better for her. Just give her the attention and love that she is missing❤

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You should talk to your sister and take (Madison) stay with you at your place if possible.

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That’s really sad. Have you ever brought it up to your sister? What does she say? Poor girl 💔

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They are 15 yo and you haven't mentioned anything? Its late in the game. Take your shot.

My sister treats one of her kids better than the other. What can I do?

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