Help!!

Hi,

I’ve been seeing this guy for about four months now. I’m not entirely sure what we are at this point. There were a few times where we made it clear that we were together, but there’s been other times where I’ll be joking around and say something like “As my boyfriend...” and he’ll kind of stop me there. It happened again the other night while we were FaceTiming. To top that off, one time I had glanced over at his phone and saw that he had tinder with notifications on..I’m honestly afraid to confront him on it, because it was about a month ago. Maybe he deleted it? I’ve been to his house a few times, we never had sex but we did go down on each other. I really don’t want to jump to conclusions, because I know it’ll hurt if what I believe is happening is the truth. I’m supposed to be seeing him on Monday and honestly speaking, I don’t wanna go.