Why do people think ...

That I need or want a break from my ONE MONTH OLD PREEMIE BABY. My SO cant understand why it bothers me so much that his family keeps asking to take our son (without us around). He’s like “they’re being nice and it doesn’t hurt to take a break.” I understand, but I get MULTIPLE texts a day from his family asking to make plans to leave my son with them. They get offended when I tell them no and I’ve asked SO to make sure to tell them I’m not ready to leave my baby with people yet. They need to stop asking and we’ll reach out when we need/want someone to watch him. If they decide they no longer want to when he’s not as fresh and new, oh well 🤷‍♀️ His sister texted me today, after asking to take him on Sunday and me saying no, and I didn’t respond because I am sick and was trying to nap, so then she texted him saying I was ignoring her and so he texted me asking me to respond to her 🤦‍♀️ I’m not going to stress about giving her a response when it’s the same question every other day. “I miss my baby, when can I take him for a few hours” 🙄

I get so so anxious with this little one and they all have opinions about how I should be doing things when the reason we do a lot of things the way we do is because he’s a preemie and it’s instructions from the nicu and his pediatrician. With their opinions about everything from breastfeeding to pacifiers to the type of diapers I use, I don’t trust them to follow the care instructions I would leave with them. I’d be sick from the anxiety of worrying about it.

SO doesn’t seem to get that or the fact that my post partum hormones cause me to NEED to be around my baby. I might take him to my midwife appointment so he understands that mom/baby separation actually contributes to ppd which I’ve already had twice now. I’m trying to avoid it this time so I can actually function in life for the next year.