Am I wrong for feeling like this?

So I am in grad school and have 3 more years left. My bf and I dated since high school but are long distance due to college. He graduated in May and has no student loans (which is great since I have a lot but my expected starting salary with my doctor degree is a lot higher than his) His parents have a business and he works there since he was 14 his degree isn’t related to this area at all and from what he has said it seems like when they retire he would manage it for them which I support of course. They offered him two different positions making $60,000 which he turned down since I know he wants to get his dream job. From what he’s said he wants to get a job with his degree which most are federal positions and take at least 4 months form when you apply until you get an interview. The thing is he graduated 5 months ago and has applied for 1 job and didn’t get pass the interview (there’s like 5 more steps after the interview). I’m so annoyed since I shouldn’t need to encourage him to apply for jobs he should have the motivation to do this on his own. Which then makes me worried about the future and if we had kids and he got laid off or something is he just going to sit around or actually do something to help support our future family??? If he managed his family business part time he would have some money from that but that shouldnt be what he expects it should be for emergencies. Hes a great worker but I don’t get why he’s so lazy on this. I told him just apply for whatever interests you a little and if you get it you can always say no. Today he told me “most people who graduated don’t have jobs yet” to which I replied “well they definitively don’t if they didnt apply”. I know it’s not about the money but realistically even if he applied now for a job it’s going to be at least March/April since he would have to attend a 2 month training program (most of the jobs again have this). So he spent a year working making minimum wage when he could have made a decent salary, had a year into a pension, started saving money etc. I just feel his plan is so different from mine since my plan when I graduate is to work to pay off my loans and then save so we can travel, buy a house, have a nice wedding, and have kids. We are both 23 so this is actually stuff that will happen in the next 4-7 years!! I’m trying to be supportive and let him make his choices it just is scaring me a little that as a new graduate with a great degree he has no motivation. He has no expenses and is living at home with his parents which I think is a major reason why he has no motivation. Am I wrong for encouraging him to apply for jobs??