I have two bum uncles
I have two bum uncles that are staying with us that haven’t worked in 10+ years. They mooch off everyone around them, and despite multiple attempts to help them get on their feet, they’d rather be lazy.
a. we got them a job with our old pastor doing construction, they left after 2 hours 2 days in a row because “their stomach hurt”
b. my mom got them a truck, but they got in an argument and one of them ran it down a mountain.
c. we cleaned out the shed, and insulated it and ran power out there, but they refuse to sleep or move out there.
As a last resort, my mom asked them to try to get disability to bring some extra money in. The drunk one tried, and didn’t get it. The other one swears he has “a hole in his foot” but the doctor wasn’t buying it. My mom was fairly certain he could get mental disability because yes he is that bad, but out of pride he refused to try.
They’re disgusting. They shower once every two weeks, their fingernails and toenails are grown way out, the bottom of their feet are black, they smell like B.O., when they get their food stamps they go and spend it all on junk (frozen pizza, danishes, 24 pack of coke, frozen meals, etc.)
They each smoke at least 2 packs of cigarettes a day, they talk bad about everyone in the house. Like how lazy I am because when I get home from my full time job, I don’t feel like cleaning, and they’re angry that they have to clean. They get mad because “I don’t help my mom out” financially. The only reason my mom needs help is because she refuses to kick THEM out, who is draining all her money. My mom buys marijuana for all three of them. My mom buys alcohol for one of them, who gets drunk every night. She has to buy cigarette tubes and tobacco in bulk because they smoke so many.
They also talk about how “democrats are ruining this country” and how “people are moochers and are on food stamps and lazy” and I’m literally just dumbfounded at how idiotic they sound. They literally complain about the exact person that they are.
The only thing that they do in return is half-ass clean, and the drunk one will mow the yard occasionally. They’ve taken over the house and I’M out in the shed now. They took over the room and the living room. I only go in there to shower. I can’t even cook anything in there because they’ve destroyed the kitchen.
The list goes on and on. Obviously the ultimate goal is to move out and get away from it.. but I’ve heard the way they talk to my mom when I’m around. I can only imagine how they’ll treat her when I move out and there’s no one to stand up to them. I’m worried that when I move out, they’re going to bully her into buying them what they want, or maybe get physical. They’ve gotten physical with me, and left bruises on me. I don’t know what to do.
*** the only reason I didn’t file a report, is because my mom had marijuana in the house out in the open and that would get her in trouble. (marijuana isn’t legal in my state.) Also, when I called and told her, she swore that she would kick them out. She said “this is the last straw.” But, it never happened and here we are.
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