text him or let it be?

basically, my baby’s father left us about a month ago. one day he was here saying we’re a family and that he wanted his forever. then he left and i literally didn’t hear from him again. that was just it, after everything.

being the type that i am, i would’ve obviously said something. i mean we literally were in a long term relationship with a baby. that is, had i not known that he was with his ex girlfriend in another city the very next day.

i just will never understand. i especially don’t get how he just ghosted the mother of his child and his son like it was nothing..??? but - either way..

i’ve still been texting his mother and let her see the baby a few times. however, i don’t like or agree with the situation. we used to all be a family, all be together, now it’s “can i have him for the day”. i am no longer welcome, and i’m no longer comfortable with them having my son.

the option to be a family was on the table and he walked away from it. it’s over. i’ve been at my breaking point for weeks now, desperate, depressed. i finally decided i have tried enough and given my best effort. again, he made the choice, i am not responsible for making things better, for explaining myself or my choices, or for the fact that they are no longer seeing the baby.

i’m done, i’ve been too nice and too forgiving. he is texting me now since i don’t respond to his mother saying they want to see the baby. he is saying the same. didn’t reply. he kept calling, i ignored them. she texts AGAIN asking to stop by before work tomorrow morning.

i just don’t even know what to do anymore? am i in the wrong? do you have any advice? is there something i should say, if anything at all? i just feel it’s fitting considering he did the same.

at the least, this is just temporary because i am HURT beyond words. i’m heartbroken and i’m healing, and i can’t deal with this broken family thing right now. it’s not what i want.

at the most, i do heal and i realize i’ve made the right choice and move on. i don’t know yet. i need advice. thank you, ladies.