UPDATE:

Just to clear some things up.

My husband never sought out to do anything in the physical way it’s all just been messages to a few of his female friends on social media. With that being said I’m not saying that is any better.

We have an 8 month old and I’m currently pregnant with our second. Our relationship isn’t toxic in the fact that we fight and hate each other. We simple lost one another and our connection shortly after we had our son because so much in our life had changed aside from the birth of our child. When all this went down I took my son to my moms for the day so he wasn’t exposed to anything. Our relationship has honestly gotten a lot better since everything happened and we communicate on a whole new level. We don’t want our children to be raised in separate houses like we both were. I’m willing to work on things and same goes for my husband. We are entering couples counseling as well as individual counseling since we both have our own demons to work on.

I recently found out my husband had been messaging other women on fb. We have decided to move forward and work on things for the sake of kids and with the understanding that this will not be tolerated again. How do you deal with the whole being in their phone aspect? I feel like a parent constantly asking what he’s doing but that just isn’t enough for me. My trust is at negative 100 right now. I know if I were to ask to see his phone he could easily just delete anything ( although I’m pretty positive he ain’t trying that shit again on me.) need advice on how to handle this situation. Please no hate comments and the “ why stay with him” comments. There is a lot that goes into why I’m still here and willing to work on things.