I just need to vent and some possible solutions. This may be long to.

So my daughter's father and I have not be together since she was one. She is now three. When he moved out he was seeing her 2-3 times a month and would actually spend time with her when he did see her. Over the past two years he has seen her less and less. Now it's down to once a month for an hour or soabd he never calls to talk to her ( he expects me to have her call him). And when he does see her he is on his phone or busy with something else that he really doesn't pay attention to her. He comes to my house to see her because I do not trust him alone with her. He was arrested multiple times for shoplifting and drugs. I don't want to keep her from knowing her father. I feel I have done everything I can for him to see her. I have no issues with it as long as I am there, or someone in my family is there. And he has had no voiced issues about it either. I did at one point let her go out with him for a few hours when I thought he was doing better only for him to be arrested a few days later, since then we are back to the my house only visitations. We have no custody agreement yet either. I have voiced my concerns about him seeing her less over time. I have recently noticed her talking more about her dad and how he is not here. And since the last time he came she has been acting out more. She has not been listening to me or my fiance, which she use to do. I don't know if it's just her age or if I should be more concerned about the relationship with her father. I am at a loss at what to do. I can't get her to listen and when I try to discipline her, she at times, starts talking about her dad and how she wants him. She is only three. I feel it should not be this way. She is too young to feel the pain of separated patents. But it seems she is already hurt. My heart it's broken.