I need advice on my relationship ??

My fiancé works mornings & sometimes at night. When he comes home from both jobs. he comes in says hi, washed & goes outside and smokes and chills with his friends. We have 2 kids together(I have 2 from a previous relationship, he treats my 2 just like his own) he’s an outstanding dad.

I’m a stay at home mom, we both agreed on it. But he actually suggested it. Okay so when I hang out with my girls who have kids, most of the time he will start with me. He’ll say he has all rights to hang out because he works all day, stands on his feet gets no breaks, & that he pays everything and I don’t. He’ll say I’m lazy I do nothing all day, I think the world revolves around me, if he lost a job or died what would we do we’d run to my family & they won’t help because they don’t now. He says more trust me. He doesn’t get that I don’t get a break ever. I wake up very early get my 4 kids up, make sure my older boys are dressed etc for school. My 2 younger ones (boy n girl) I cook them breakfast in the am. Then I’m cleaning the house, doing laundry, dishes, garbage, cooking 3-4 meals a day. Taking time out to play n teach my kids. Then nap time. When things need to be fixed I do it. Then I’m doing homework, helping my son do his instrument for band. Etc but I’m a lazy b**** as he’d say. But he doesn’t do one thing in the house, I do it I get the food for the house not him. If I hang out imnot paying attention to my kids he says but I actually I am everyone sees me chasing my kids playing watching them, while he stands with his friends laughing n smiling. I’m not allowed to hang with friends I gotta stay in n check in. I worked my a** off before I met him I was a single mom & I feel Ima have to do it again. I’m a good woman & I get yelled at for everything. One time I got accused of trying to talk to other guys. I gave him the phone he has my code I have his n he found nothing. I dress nice I’m tryna impress other people when I’m just dressing for me. I had a broken thumb almost had ammonia n I still stood up n took care of my kids. I do everything I can n it goes unshown for. Do I love him yes I would love for us to be together, what should I do? I need advice.