When he's stressed he takes it out on me

I'm tired, I'm drained and feel like I deserve alot more. I haven't been the same person since my daughter was born, I'm honestly struggling to balance everything, I'm still not over the horrible year I've had. That being said I always try my best to do what I can. I take care of our daughter and the house the best I can. I've recently started back at work too. I know I'm not the easiest person to live with, but my SO isn't either.

He'll have random moments where he'll criticise me and moan about trivial things, then turn around and make out like I'm the one over reacting about it. Yesterday my mum and sister looked after our daughter, she didn't eat whatever she was given besides some yoghurt, so they gave her a couple of fries and a bit of fried chicken. I had no problem with this. My SO comes home freaking out about it "why would they give her that? They might aswell give her crisps and sweet. I thought you wanted her to be healthy". I just said to him that she's not going to die from a few chips at the end of the day, he's given her fries before. He's even given her his trashy canned luncheon meat.

Of course I would prefer her to be healthy but a balanced diet is okay. He turns around and says I'm over reacting and raising my voice. He was the one making the whole thing into an issue. I felt like he felt a way about my mum looking after our daughter as if she's incapable.

Then the next thing he said is why no one replied to his message asking how she "was". I opened up my what's app to his message that read "how is she? '' to which I replied to and said she was sleeping. Then throughout the evening I kept him up to date with what was going on. Apparently this isn't good enough because he asked how she was. Wtf? What difference does it make? She was a bit constipated and wouldn't take her medication, or any of the fruit offered her to help.

I can understand to an extend why he might be a little mad, however she was constipated a couple weeks ago and her childminder gave her crisps, he didn't utter a word.

He went downstairs to find one of his cats has vomited and starts shouting at them to get out, then slams the door. I hear him complaining that he doesn't know how long thats been there, so I let him know I went down a couple hours ago to close the window and they were fine. If there was puke on the floor, why would I leave it there? Come on now. It is getting so ridiculous now.

A Couple of days ago it was my fault our daughter wouldn't drink from a bottle. Then the next day what dsi she do? Drink from a bottle. honestly. I listen to all this crap for years, I'm always the fucking problem.

Im meant to be a mind reader and know when something is bothering him, although I constantly ask him what the problem is. When I'm sad he doesn't give a fuck. I know this all comes down to our money issues too, it's like he can't take the pressure. I'm on the same boat too, yet I'm still nice to him.