Be prepared for a long rant!!!

My husband I have been together for 13 years, we are both in our early thirties, so we are high school sweethearts.

We where each other’s first and omg it was amazing!! We did it anytime everywhere!! We could take our hand of each other. Literally the best fucking time of my life

I went to college, We broke things off and met other people. That didn’t last long and We got back together. Our sex life just took of where we left off

Then we had a little oops, And 9 months later we welcome our beautiful baby boy. Our sex life went back to normal but as time went on everyday sex turned into every second day or 3 times a week. You put it off to baby taking up your time, hubby working etc. Everyone is just tired...

Then you start feeling insecure, as I am trying to be sexy he doesn’t want you or look past you. He just want to rip your clothes off anymore... My head starts playing games and I start thinking he is cheating but their is no proof. I bought a vibrator to stimulate my sexual needs. I started to feel maybe it is me?!? Maybe I am broken, maybe I am addicted to SEX. Fast forward 10 years and 3 beautiful boys 11, 8 and 3 months. I haven’t had sex with my husband in 8months. Growing up, you always hear that is what a man wants!! He wants sex!!! That is part off his programming. Give him food, beer and a good fuck and he will be happy!!!

Well I am calling BULLSHIT in my husbands case

For years I have felt that it was maybe me, maybe he can’t stand me! He is no longer attracted to me!! He is cheating ?? I will rub that dick and it won’t even get hard!! What the fuck is it broken??

What is wrong with me???

I crying myself to sleeping, our baby is 3 months and I am working my butt of in the gym!!! But I know doesn’t matter how much I change myself!! He still won’t want me.

I even got our friends to look after our kids for the night, before baby was born. Had a romantic dinner got home put a little something something on and nothing absolutely nothing.

My husband is one the 1% of men that hates sex!!!

I have come to the conclusion that he HATES sex!!! My husband does not like having sex and if he does have sex it doesn’t even last 2mins!!!

Now my question ladies what the fuck is up?? What would you fucking do??

I am 31 tomorrow and I don’t want to go with out sex until I am dead 💀

I need advise!!!!

UPDATE ; okay removed my fifty Gifs :) . Yes, I have discussed this him, he always has a different excuse!

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I am tired

I have to get up early in the morning,

I have a headache

I had a long day at work

Why do always want sex? Well we haven’t had sex in a few months

I did suggest we go and see a Dr. He says nothing is wrong.

UPDATE 2:

Firstly, thank you for everyone that has commented.

Secondly, I know my husband is not cheating, he does not have the time to cheat, he is either at work or coach our kids sports team and then he is home with us.

Thirdly, this is not something that just started to happened after having three kids. This is something that we have had to deal with for the last 10 years and it has gradually gotten worse.

Fourthly, for those who think my post is aggressive and my subject line is not aimed at my husband, it is aimed at myself. Like what the fuck is wrong with you? Saying to myself in the mirror :) and if my post seems aggressive it comes from a place of frustration and feeling like their is something wrong.

I have spoken to my husband again, and still doesn’t want to talk about it. I have suggested that we maybe go and see a Dr just to do a general health check and he refused.

I am also stressed, working, running after ours kids, cleaning, but I am trying to make and effort in our marriage. Whether it is having sex, taking him out for lunch, buying him something nice, I even took of work early to mow the fucking grass so he has one less thing to worry about.

I love my husband but I also know how important all aspects of your a relationship is.