I’m 25 weeks pregnant and we have a 20 month old son. I’m so hurt by my husband’s apparent indifference to me.

I’ve had a lot of SI joint pain lately. It hurts to bend down, walk, lay down and roll over. So basically, it hurts all the damn time.

As a side note - Our son has just started throwing legit tantrums. And we’ve been struggling with finding an effective response to this.

So many people have been helping me through this. They offer to carry my son to the car, strap him in, walk him around a restaurant when he’s crazy, distract him from a tantrum while I get him dressed, etc. I can do all these things on my own, but their offers warm my heart.

My husband is the exact opposite of this. He rarely offers to help, when he does, he’s angry. He never asks how I feel. He’s openly pouting about lack of sex. He’s not keeping up with our “every other” turns for bathing and laying our son down. I’m doing it all even though bending over the tub hurts my back and it takes anywhere from 1 to 3 hours for our son to fall asleep when I lay him down.

I’m frustrated that I feel like I do so much to accommodate his need to study and maintain self care, like going to work out or see his friends. And he just doesn’t give a fuck about me.

Last week he legitimately got made when I asked if he would also pour me a glass of orange juice while he was pouring himself some. I don’t even know how to respond to this shit. I don’t need to be coddled and I don’t expect him to do everything by himself, but I expect to have a partner in parenting our child and support throughout my pregnancy.

I’m pissed and really hurt that I feel like he cares less for me than I deserve. Maybe this sounds petty, but I’m wondering if I should stay in this marriage...