Pregnancy after loss hard for anyone else?

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I’m 19+4 and my anxiety has been awful I feel like pregnancy after having a loss is so hard I worry about everything. Our anatomy scan is on Monday and I’m terrified to get bad news. Baby girl has been very active at every appointment I have a anterior placenta and haven’t felt much movement. I don’t know how to just relax

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I hear you!  This is my second rainbow baby after several losses, including two very hard late ones. I struggle tremendously with this notion that we should be blissfully celebrating right now. Mostly I feel fear right now. This conflict  has caused some issues with friends who just don't get the perspective of someone who has had major losses and are not respectful, so it's made me become very private and reserved in many ways. You are not alone Mama! Carrying a rainbow is not easy!

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I am the same way! I am 19+5 and I worry everyday that something is wrong. I had my anatomy scan last week and I was nervous something was going to be wrong before going in, but everything was ok and just seeing her on the screen was reassuring. It seems like forever until my next appointment and that’s when I usually start to worry. I hope once she kicks more I will stop worrying as much! Good luck and the best advice I can give is to just take it day by day and try to enjoy it if you can!

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I had a stillborn at 33 weeks in 2015 and we found big problems at that baby's anatomy scan. I'm worried sick over this current baby's scan next week. Ugh! Hang in there ❤️

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Yes. I get you. After my 1st kid I can 1 chemical and 3 miscarriages. When I get preg with this one I was terrified (especially as we had a possible early eptopic preg). Every scan lead up has been awful. My placenta is at the front an I can’t really feel much. Had scan yesterday (19w5d) and I was the most nervous of all my scans. I have a feel I will be worried until the day I hold my baby in my arms. I don’t know how to shake that feeling despite so many people telling me “not to worry”. So you are not alone.

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Girl, yes!  I had a major breakdown the day before my 20 week ultrasound. Even put up a plea for encouragement on here and got a majority of pissing contest comments because my husband had just told me he couldn't make it.  The thought of having to possibly tell him bad news after I knew I would feel like a bad mother; even though logically I know it's a genetic problem on average, which you can't control... It tore me up.  Especially after our loss an exact year ago.  He's perfect, though.  He's actually a week and a half ahead of schedule and we saw his face. He looks just like his dad.  I know it's painful to not know but it will pass and you will walk out glowing with joy.  I hope you find peace of mind before you go but I know you will after. 
PS.  If you like statistics, only roughly one percent of women get bad news at the 20 week and after that, it's usually smooth sailing.  Plus, normally an abnormality is not life threatening or will cause any developmental problems.  It's just a unique quirk of your baby.

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My 20 week appointment is tomorrow n it can’t come soon enough!! After a loss in January, it’s been hard not to constantly worry - just praying all will be well !!!

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I’m 19 +4 too ! With a baby boy 💙 I had a chemical in March and I have been scared this whole pregnancy . Right there with you momma . Prayers 💖

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I had my 20 week appointment today n it went great! Baby girl is perfect n I’m much more at ease! I hope u find that peace n comfort soon!!!

Pregnancy after loss hard for anyone else?

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