Should I leave?

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I have been with my current man for almost 4 years. We met online while we were both divorcing, we met up a few times and then he helped me move. The last night he was helping  me move, he stayed the night and basically just never left. He is (almost) everything I could want for in a man: employed, own house, own car, responsible, caring, sex drive, cleans, cooks, amazing with my kids. He texts me when he is coming home, asks if I need anything from the store, etc. Fast forward 2 years... About 8 months ago, I was looking for a new place and was upset about not finding anything appropriate to rent. He asked me to move in with him. His income lessened my benefits, so he pays for lots of things and drives me and the kids places since I don't have a car/license. Everything was going great, until I decided I wanted a baby. I asked him to start a family with me and he said no problem to a baby, but he didn't like who he became when he was married and is there a way for us to go on without rings being involved. I decided I needed to leave since he couldn't give me a commitment. He came home and asked me what was wrong and I started crying and said I was looking for apartments. That since he couldn't give me what I needed, I would find it elsewhere. He talked me out of leaving, but said that he would not stop sleeping with other people, so it would need to be an open relationship. I thought about it and agreed to an open relationship, where I could have outside partners, too. He has been so amazing, he tells me he loves me, that I am important to him and we are about to ttc... but last night, he referred to me as his roommate.... and my heart shattered. Should I stay and just let him pay my way and have other relationships, or leave because my heart is too vested. I am afraid that due to my age, I won't have another opportunity to have a baby with anyone else.
Edit: he has nothing to gain from me, other than I cook, do laundry and sex, but he pays all the bills, buys food and and other needs and drives us places.

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Please stop actively trying to conceive. You aren’t financially secure and this relationship is toxic. You have to know these are not the conditions to bring a child into. ❤️

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Sorry but ain’t no man worth losing your dignity or self respect. You need to be a strong and independent woman. Let him go mami. It might hurt for awhile but you will learn to go on with life. There is someone out there that’s willing to giving you that commitment and honestly I believe he is only giving you an excuse “open relationship” to basically be a man whore. He basically wants to cheat while you cook, clean, and spewed your legs when he is ready for you. After you leave you probably wanna get an STD screening. I’m sorry and good luck.

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You have to ask yourself can you live like that the rest of your life.  Are you not worth having someone’s who faithful to you, while his paying the bills go get ur driver license by a car save up your money and leave.

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Was this always an open relationship? 
Don’t ever settle. You wanted marriage and a baby. He said no to marriage and no to a monogamous relationship. Why did he get what he wanted and you didn’t. Move on. There is better out there.
If you are serious about a baby you can do it on your own with a sperm donor or freeze your eggs. There are options. Don’t hold onto this guy who will never give you what you want.

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First of all get your self a job, even if it's part time. Start your driving lessons and pass your test. Once your on the road in your own car you will feel a different sense of freedom. From there you can branch out on your own and find a man who can/will give you what you want. Don't stay there and be dependent on him. It's not fair on the kids either

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Please leave him!!! Omg know your worth! I honestly from experience i was thinking the same thing about me and thought id rather stay in my ex toxicology relationship because i was too okd to start, but i decided id rather try starting over and enjoy myself (self love in the process) one day id find someone with the same morals rather than waste moreee time & regretting it and just living a nightmare of sadness next to that person! I know ill be hard but you have to get back to your feet! Please don’t settle for something worse you wouldn’t have settles in your first relationship now just due to financial stability & fakeeeeee Love because he DOES NOT love you! He just doesn’t want to be alone!

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Omg wtf lol

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Stop using him because you are paying mentally for it. Move on, don’t have a baby with him, get your license and a car. Both sound like trash.

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Let’s be honest I’m sure you don’t particularly want an open relationship but why not? You can have outside relations and potentially meet someone that you could see yourself with. If your current is offering to lay your way I say let him. He’s getting what he wants and you’re getting what u want and need. You save up money put it to the side and if things go left you’ll have the funds and ability to leave. Play smarter not harder. Wish you the best 🤞🏽

Should I leave?

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