Suffering in silence

My husband uses my mental health against me a lot. I suffer from depression and a panic disorder both of which are untreated right now because I am pregnant and don’t want to take medications while pregnant. If I become stressed out he’ll tell me I don’t know how to handle “life.” Tonight I came to him with feelings that I am failing as a mother (we have a 3 year old already). He told me just sit in my depression because “complaining” to him won’t do anything but “work me up” more. I feel so alone in this. I told him that I was very concerned about post partum depression after I have this baby and that I was considering seeking help. He says “are you really that bad?” I told him I didn’t know because honestly I don’t. I feel very disconnected from my own life. My dad passed away last month and since then I feel like I am watching someone else’s life. Like nothing feels real. He just turned his attention back to the TV show. I feel like I’m annoying him and I don’t know what do.