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Question

So my fiance and I recently met new couple that we have been hanging out with a decent amount. 
My husband owns a lawncare company so we are comfortable enough but not rich my any means. This couple is extremely loaded. They own 8 Pet supply stores and just opened their second furniture store. They've worked hard an done amazing for themselves. 
He is where my question comes in... they offered my dream to me. To send my fiance and I to Icleand. For our wedding. They have offered to pay for everything while there. Everything. Even the wedding. The catch is, they want to write up our itinerary. Be in control of everything we do while there and want photos and videos of it all. Shes the type that plans everything to the minute. I am not. I like to go with the flow and the fun of traveling for me is to find one thing after another and just go with it. See where I end up. 
Yes I am incredibly, dumbfoundedly appreciative of this. It's an incredibly caring and kind gesture. But I cant help feeling that its dripping with control. The things she wants us to do are all in city, all touristy dinners and shops. Iceland is my dream because of the landscape. I dont want to go and just see another city. 
Yes it's still my dream. Especially being married there. But it's not what I envisioned. I've openly said this to her and her husband and she isnt budging. 
I want to kayak. I want to hike. I want to camp. I understand they have a world famous hotdog she wants a video of me eating but I've also been a vegetarian for 21 years. 
Am I being ungrateful thinking this way? Should I just let these things go and attempt to enjoy it? Or will I regret every second because my dream has been forced and changed? 
I'm not sure what to do. It feels strange even accepting the offer regardless of whether they could pay this 1000 times over. 
Insight please?

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I wouldn’t accept the offer. It sounds so weird how she wants you to do specific things and get videos of you doing those specific things. Yeah life is short but I’m sure one day you’ll make it there with your own money. I personally think it’s weird. But it’s up to you if you really want to go & if you trust them that much

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I think your wedding should be what you want it to be. No-one else should have control over what happens apart from you and your partner. 
It seems seriously odd that they would want to control your itinerary like that... and I think if your the sort of person that likes to go with the flow, it seems like there’s a high chance it would not be to your taste. When actually your wedding should be all about you guys. 
If it were me? I’d thank them for the kind offer, maybe find out what sort of things they had in mind and if it’s just not you, then that’s a perfectly valid reason to say no....

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no. honestly it's kinda shady in my opinion, and not as generous as a gift they think it is. a gift is a gift. it's poor taste to dictate something so heavily. she sounds like a control nut. it's not a loan, it's a gift. my family is affluent and i have NEVER heard of anything as tacky as that. you only willingly part with money you can stand to never see again. 
i wouldn't go since it sounds like it goes against your every wish. my aunt often offers to send me on vacations in places i could never afford to go by myself, but she lets me spend my time as i see fit. it's weird your friend is trying to control your vacation, even if she's paying for it. i would save up and have the trip that YOU want. there's no point in going if you aren't enjoying it to the fullest and being forced to go against your lifestyle habits.

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That’s a really hard decision.... I think it would depend on what they’re asking me to do. At the end of the day, your wedding is supposed to be YOURS - 100% special to you in whatever way you’d like it to be. If it feels right, go for it. If not, thank them for the offer & invite them to be involved in your wedding planning regardless! Talk to your future hubby about it, it sounds like a biiiiiig decision. That being said... you could always let them do this for you & throw yourself a spectacular wedding anniversary trip 10 years down the road of your own design 🤷🏼‍♀️ kind of a win-win?

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Tbh its strange they would offer this. Like did they place bets on If youd take it? Its your wedding, not hers. Do what you want, and to do that you foot the bill. A dream is that, a dream. You can still visit the country, just maybe not be married there. Or down the road, renew your vows there. But them offering to pay, and plan legit all of it is just to odd.

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No. For a vacation? Yea probably. But not for my wedding

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