Any tips for remaining positive?

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I was positive the first year of trying, ever since it has gotten harder and harder to cope. What are your tips and tricks for staying sane and dealing with the constant disappointment of this process? And props to those of you who have been on this journey a long time. I’m only at a year and a half and the weight of it all is really getting to me.

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It got harder and harder to be positive. I felt like I was protecting my heart by couching my hope. I was finally able to find some hope during my first IVF cycle. I downloaded the mindful Ivf app and the first meditation said, “if you￼ allow yourself to hope, and it doesn’t work, you’ll be devastated. If you don’t allow yourself to hope, and it doesn’t work, you’ll be devastated. So you might as well allow your self to hope.￼” this resonated with me and I was able to be truly hopefully. I think this allowed me to get pregnant from my first transfer, but unfortunately, the baby didn’t develop properly and I had to do a d&c. Now I’m ramping up for my second cycle and trying desperately to get my hope back. I found that being hopeful makes this process so much easier even if you are devastated at the end, and I think hope will help success come in the end. I hope this helps!

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I don't think anyone can stay positive through infertility all the time. There are going to be ups and down, so cut yourself some slack when you are feeling low. I have the low moments sometimes and my husband tried to make me feel better. I told  him that my feelings are like a wave length, I have to get through the low times to feel back on top again. I do some things for myself  to help me feel positive  I workout, do meditation and yoga. My advice would be to put together a list of things that make you feel good or relax you, maybe it is a hot bath. Go to your list in times of need and remember to treat yourself. 
You will get through this and I wish you all the best!

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Google search Robyn Birkin. Listen to her podcasts, read her blog, do her intensive and you will be come a fertility warrior!! 
It got dark for me 6 months into infertility, Robyn saved my life and my sanity. I’m finding fun in the treatments again. I’m no longer stressed about the amount of money we are shelling out. My life is not on hold.

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I get it. It’s over 3yrs for us. Trying to explain my feelings to my SO helps. Distractions... one week we have a date, next week the dog has a vet appointment etc. just little things that are in the here and now that have to be focused on.

Any tips for remaining positive?

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