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Please dont be afraid to talk to your doctor about these feelings. Baby blues is normal, and goes away with time. But post partum depression is very real, and there is help out there if thay is what your suffering from. Talk with your dr. Talk with your husband. Dont hold these feelings in. There is help out there, you're not alone. And I'm sure you're a fantastic mom to your sweet little girl. Sending love and hope for you get through this.
I regret having my baby..
Please no judgment this is a vent
I am hoping this feeling passes fast because I feel guilty for feeling this way, and upset at the same time because I miss the way things were.
But why? I wanted this ? We tried for her. We wanted her. We were excited.
And seeing my husband being a great father helps tremendously because I want to be happy for him.
But I can’t help myself and think about all the stuff I feel robbed from ( which I know is a ridiculous statement because I chose this) I literally am counting the days and years till I am free to be with just my husband and she will be old enough to be left at home alone. And it feels sooo wrong. I keep looking at other parents and seeing how happy they are and wanting more kids but I can’t even imagine having anymore although my husband wants a son really bad and I want to give him that but I don’t think I can be a good enough mother to one let enough two.
I just want to enjoy this I want to feel happy. I don’t mind the dirty diapers and sleepless nights but there’s this feeling inside every time I go in her nursery and I pick her up.
What’s getting me through is how much I love my husband, I literally can’t explain how much I love him because it’s that much. And seeing him happy with her is what is helping me get thru the day and see the positives but when he’s not there it makes it sooo hard and the tears won’t go away. The first three days home I literally couldn’t stop crying. No matter how I tried I couldnt. And the past two days I have been fighting the tears back and trying to reinforce my mind with positive affirmations but it’s so hard.
Please let this feeling end.
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Having a baby was both the best and the worst decision I have ever made up until I had my second.The first twelve weeks are hard. The first twelve months are hard and I’m almost at year three with my eldest and it is still so hard.That being said, even if I’m having a bad day I love my children so very much and wouldn’t change anything for the world. I revel in their smiles, their changes, the fact my toddler now holds full conversations, the fact my 16w old is almost rolling. It’s these magical moments which make parenting wonderful.It’s okay to feel robbed, the world sells us a fantasy. You know it’s hard, but you don’t know how hard till you’re on this side of it. Sometimes I think back on how naive I was 😂. Be kind to yourself, it can take time to form a bond with your child.That being said, it’s been a few weeks and you still feel miserable please see a doctor.There’s a difference between finding it difficult but rewarding and being utterly miserable.
Omg, I totally understand where you’re coming from. I was absolutely like that after my first was born. I was like “What the f*ck have I done to my life?!”But it DID get better. Please explain your feelings to your doc, as you might be suffering from some PPD. I sure was. There is NOTHING wrong with you. You’re not a bad mom. You’re dealing with a major life change, and extremely volatile emotions. Until you see your doc-be easy on yourself. Be on the lookout for harmful thoughts-towards yourself or baby. (Again, because that’s a common PPD symptom) Don’t be afraid too reach out!! ❤️
This is more common than people think. It doesn’t even necessarily mean you have ppd (that could be part of it so always check in with a doctor and therapist) but having a baby is a big change. It takes time to adjust and your hormones are crazy right now. It’s uncomfortable to have these feelings especially while simultaneously loving your child so so much. Talk to someone, if you have time or the energy join a mom’s group and when you need time for yourself to shower or just get out of the house because you need space, leave the baby with your hubby or sitter and go for a couple hours. Love to you ❤️ this will get better
It sounds like you have some mental issues going on and I would try and go seek therapy or counseling if I were you. Your baby deserves nothing but love and happiness from you and I would hate for you to keep feeling like this while your child grows up as it can cause a strain with your relationship and bonding. Your child will grow up feeling all this from you and it is not healthy for kids. Idk if you breastfeed but I think that helps with the bonding plus it releasing oxytocin’s in moms so that might help as well. Idk I’ll be praying for you to find happiness, love and peace in motherhood. 💜 Also you should be as happy and in love with your baby as you are with your husband.
How old is baby? Talk to your doctor. It is not unheard of to feel this way, BUT it needs to be addressed. You are not the only one who has ever felt this way. I struggled all the way up until 9 months before I truly loved and was comfortable with my identity as a momma. I didn’t seek professional help, but probably should have. Those early days are SOOO hard, but you are not alone. Talk to someone. Pediatrician, OB.... anyone who can refer you somewhere. Answer those screening questions honestly at your visits as well. Good luck momma and hang in there!
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