Pregnant after adoption?

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No judgement is what I'm looking for.

Last year, after a lot of terrible circumstances, I decided to give my son up for adoption.

I was pregnant by a man who told me to get rid of it and then never talked to me again. I lost my job, I was living with my mom, no car, my dad got into a horrible car accident that resulted in him being paralyzed after being in a medical induced coma for a month.

It was the greatest decision I have ever made, he's so loved by his big, well off family, and they have agreed to keep it open, he's even got a picture of me holding him in his bedroom.

I, in no way regret my decision but my question is, I recently found out I'm pregnant, and everything is different. I love her dad, I am living on my own, with my own car, a great job, and I'm excited, but I'm also sad and nervous because it's only been a year and I'm afraid of what my family is going to say...

What would you do?

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Thank for your choosing life and adoption for your 1st baby . Now that things have changed I'd say to heck to what people think.

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I hate how judgemental so many of you are who have never been in this type of situation. So many people are selfish and keep their children knowing that they are unable to take care of them. God forbid you put a child up for adoption and that makes you not allowed the ever have another child again? Sorry but that's not how it works and if you think otherwise then you're a very close minded person who needs to open your eyes.

I think you did a very brave thing by giving your son to a family that will love him and take care of him. And bless their hearts for keeps big it open for you to still have contact with him. But like you said. Things are different now. You are doing better for yourself and have a better relationship with this father to be. It's all up to you mamma. Do what you feel in your heart is right.

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First off let me say THANK YOU for choosing adoption, I can't imagine how hard that would be to hand your child over, but you gave him wonderful chance for an amazing life.

Second, if I was in your position, I would definitely keep the second baby if you feel that you and your SO can take care of her. And honestly wouldn't worry about what your family has to say... You know why you did the things you did! Hopefully they will be happy for you!!!

Congratulations mama!

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Thank you for choosing adoption instead of abortion! Dont worry what your family thinks.

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It does not matter what your family will say. You gave your child LIFE and a great family. Now love and raise this one.

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I would keep my baby if I were you. People may have negative things to say, but forget them. It sounds like you are able to care for a child. It also sounds like you know what you want. You are only worried about what people will say. Their opinions shouldn't matter.

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Just wanted to add, I would not have been as good of a mother as you first time around. A lot of people see the bad in adoption saying how can they give their baby up. You didn't. You placed your baby in a great loving home over your own wants and needs. I would've been so selfish given that situation, but carrying a child to term and giving them a better life is selfless in every way. Don't let anyone ever say different to you.

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The whole reason for your decision to place your first child was your situation. Now the situation has changed and you DESERVE to be HAPPY! Your family should understand that after all that's happened you deserve to have this and no one should tell you any different. Congratulations! Hope your 9 months are beautiful! (:

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If everything is different from the situation with your son then I don't see why anyone would be judgmental. And if they are, that sucks but it's your baby and your life so it's your decision! It sounds like you made a great choice for your son and I'm sure you will make great choices for this one as well! You clearly have your babies best interest at heart. 💜💙

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My question is if you couldn't keep the first one why did you get pregnant again? There are a lot of birth control options! Anyways as its already happened keep your baby if you can provide what a child needs. Don't care what your family has to say there not living your life or providing for you so it's your choice. Good luck with everything! Don't think I'm judging you in just curious as to why and how it happened again. I know if I'm not ready to have a child I do what ever precautions it takes so it doesn't happen.

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