Feeling shitty because of my BF’s Best Friend

We are all 21. He is best friends with a female. We are in a long distance relationship. This woman is married and has a child and lives real close to him.

They have been best friends since high school. We all went to the same high school. She’s one of those people who would act as if her military husband’s rank is hers. She also loves attention from anyone and everyone and would be texting other people but would get rejected or ignored because she’s pregnant/had a child and is full drama.

I trust my bf. Never questioned the friendship. I was questionable of her and her actions. Her mentioning ownership to my bf was extremely uncomfortable. She also mentioned trying to get with my ex to fuck but was so depressed he rejected her. Keep in mind this woman is married with a child on her way. Red flag one.

I still trust my bf. He seems very loyal. I don’t care how much of a hoe she wants to act like, none of my business. I tried to be friends with this woman, I really did.

She mentions how everyone she tries to make friends with becomes crazy. Brings up one of her group of friends dumping her. I know this story because I also saw it..back in high school. (It seems she’s still stuck with high school mentality/drama). Her friend “stole” her boyfriend of ? years. They were already broken up for months. She mentions how after years of this happening, the “boy snatcher” keeps messaging her and harassing her to shove in her face their relationship.

I asked for proof because who doesn’t love tea. They are all fake. The “boy snatcher” was in advanced classes with me and would never make your/youre or their/they’re mistakes. This bff can barely spell. Also, why would anyone do that? She made them and sent them to herself. Psycho.

After a while of putting up with her fake shit and loving the victim act. I ghosted her. She was trying to get with my bf, trying to get with my ex’s after she asked who I had dated in the past, me mentions how everyone is crazy but her, she’d constantly call to find my location and if I’m loyal to her bff.

After I ghosted her..she started acting worse. She’d take my bf and invite him over to her house more than usual. He’d go maybe 2 times a month to see her and hang out but now it was 3 times a week. Unnecessary. I felt uncomfortable. He would go missing whenever he was with her. She was trying to seduce him. He would fall asleep cuddled up to her in bed together. This stupid boy would send me snaps of it all, “all innocent” this man. Again I was uncomfortable and voiced it every time.

I got extremely mad like anyone would. I told him how I felt for the 3rd time. How uncomfortable I am with her and her behavior and him being a pushover and giving in to her.

I questioned their friendship. I overreacted and called him cheater.

He cried and mentions cutting her off and up until now I believe he has cut her out of his life. She got a divorce and is living with some relatives back in our hometown. I feel disgusted. I feel dirty myself. I feel unwanted and played with.

I broke off their friendship and now he’s extremely depressed. I am depressed. I feel like shit. I just don’t know what to do or what I can do. It’s been months since this happened and I still feel so angry and sad.

***Edit****

Why were they in bed together? “Because we have been friends for many years, it’s normal”.

Doesn’t she have a husband and a kid? “Yeah but he’s cool with it, he’s my friend too”

- Husband is pretty absent and cheats on the wife (the bff), he doesn’t care and would rather play video games or go out with his side girls.

We have been together for a year and I put up with their friendship for 10 months until I decided it was enough. I did tell him I wasn’t ok with it multiple times. I did request boundaries which he promised he was following. He was not. Only reason why it’s over is because of the divorce and husband no longer wants her on base, she moved back to hometown.

She moved back and called the cops on me because I “was on my way to harm her and her child” when I was home doing homework and studying.

I feel so stupid, sad, and mad. I feel like a second choice. Whenever I get sad or mad he gets really depressed. Whenever I bring her up because I feel shitty all the time he gets mad and also depressed. He has tried stupid shit to end his life when I mention it might be best to break up. When I mention his interest is in her and not me.