Split w/ abusive babies dad, happy ending?
(This may be triggering)
I had been in a very very toxic relationship since 2017. I flew across the country to go stay with him and left everything behind. My ex would constantly beat me, break my nose, I remember very vividly last thanksgiving I spent getting stripped naked as he cut open my legs and poured bleach on me. Being choked until I would pass out, smacked around, he’d break my phones all the time and keep me away from my friends and family. I know it’s a lot and I get asked all the time why I didn’t just leave but it was something indescribable. I got pregnant with his kid in April of this year, he had put his hands on me a few times while carrying and I had ended up sending myself to a psychiatric hospital. I ended up finding out he was calling them telling them he thinks I should stay longer but after I was released I found out he was cheating on me the whole time. He started going on “late night drives” to clear his mind afterwards but was sleeping with this girl I had suspicions of already. He tried to purpose to me in our kitchen about a week later, mind you he started abusing drugs again and was higher than ever while purposing. I ran up to my bedroom in tears and told him it’s either drugs or me and the baby. He told me we can go fuck our selves and that night he ended up in jail for robbing someone. I finally built up the courage to pack my bags and fly back home. It was so difficult the first few weeks, my panic attacks were horrible, I felt alone and scared, but I knew me and my baby boy didn’t deserve that. Things got better and I started to get healthier and eat more, antidepressants have been helping a lot too. My mom has been really supportive.
Now it’s been a few months and I’m 1 month away from my baby boy being born. I was also introduced to the most humble, kind and amazing man I’ve ever met. He cares so much. The first night we hung out alone we laid in bed while he rubbed my belly and let me cry in his arms and we opened up to each other about everything we had been through while he had just went through the same thing with his ex and was being emotionally abused. I held back a little, but after awhile of hanging out and getting to know each other more, I’m already falling so hard. All he wants is a family, he adores his and was so read to introduce me to his mother and father. He always asks how I’m feeling and makes sure I’m eating enough, even when I get up in the middle of the night he wakes up and asks if I’m okay and if I need anything. He is so involved and admires me even when I look ill and don’t feel well. I’ve never felt so loved and cared for and I feel like I can really trust him. I was not looking for a relationship at all after all that I was going through, but he just came into my life and I was beyond shocked that I could be loved like this. He is using paternity leave at his job and is really excited to take care of me and the baby and is supporting me to recover while he takes care of us, like WHAT?? I cannot even get into everything he has done it is so much! My son and I are so lucky to have this man come into our life. After all that we had been through, what a happy beginning to a new chapter. I can’t believe after all the trauma and anxiety and PTSD I’ve been dealing with I actually have a bestfriend as my lover and feel so comfortable and SAFE.
Ah, I’m sorry. I had to share this. A lot of woman especially pregnant woman are in DV relationships, and I will continue to shine the light of the freedom of leaving and building up the courage. It is so so difficult but it can happen and it will pay off for the sake of your health and babies. 🖤
Achieve your health goals from period to parenting.